How do you get your daughter to wipe properly? She doesn't wipe after she wees. She is now 4 and it's becoming a huge issue. I've always taught her to wipe but when you don't supervise and tell her too she doesn't. It's to the point she is so so red down there that I don't know what to do.
How do you all get your daughter to wipe? I've asked my siblings what they've done for there children but they don't have this issue. I'm so lost as to what to do.
Edited: I help her with her bum when needed it's her vagina she doesn't wipe like ever unless I am there.
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Do you mean poop? Because otherwise I'd say she is over wiping.
If its poop, check the consistency of her poop, there really shouldn't be much to wipe, if it's sticking to her bottom she might need some help to get her poop the right consistency. Should be handled with simple dietary changes, your GP should be able to help.
I'd switch to wet wipes in the meantime. Give her a bin to put them in as you can flush them. They are much easier to get clean.
No her vagina.
She isn't wiping and I know this because I ask her and she will say no she didn't wipe or I know she's been to the toilet but there's no toilet paper been used. I do make her come back and wipe when I know she's been but she's been toilet trained a very long time so will just take Herself off to the toilet.
I think with these things you need to get to the root of the problem to solve it. Is she just too young and still needs help? Does she dislike getting her hand wet? Does she not want to waste playtime? Is she scared of the toilet when shes alone so trying to get out quicker?
I will try and ask her why. I have tried to chat with her how it's important to wipe etc and even when she was at daycare asked them to have a chat about toileting to try and get her to wipe. It's been a long issue and I'm struggling to find ways to fix it.
Yep try hovering outside and playfully catching her and saying heyy! Whats going on that made you forget to wipe?
Shes still young she may just lack the skills / discipline yet. Back to supervising until she does it.
My daughter is 4. For poop we still use wipes, she does 2 wipes and I clean the rest.
For wees we use toilet paper, she wipes herself ... but she's 4 so sometimes she wont wipe. I usually am still supervising her toilet behaviour so I always remind her to wipe and in the odd occasion i dont see it she sometimes wont do it. I know this because the little darling will tell me she didnt lol!
Maybe you need to supervise her more, at least for a few months, just to reinstall the habit of wiping?
I will try and monitor it more. She does attend a kindy so it's hard to supervise all the time. She still struggles to wipe even when I supervise it's an issue. And when she's read it's even harder to get her to wipe which I get because I know how sore it is myself when it's red but I need to get her wiping to help fix the redness for her
If she's raw at the moment it could hurt to wipe. Buy her a pack of Huggies thick wipes, she'll only need to use 1 to wipe wees. If nappy rash cream doesn't heal her up quickly see a gp.
Will wiping really fix the redness? My instinct is to go easy on wiping when shes red. Get cream on it and treat it gently. Take her to the dr to find out why its red, it may not be anything to do with wiping but a good reason why she doesnt want to touch it.
She's only 4. Supervise as much as you can. Some kids are only just toilet training at 4
I saw on Dr Oz years ago that girls/women actually shouldn't 'wipe' as toilet paper can be really abrasive on the sensitive inner labia and vaginal entrance, which could be causing the redness you mentioned. You should use a wet wipe if you need to freshen up and use folded toilet paper to pat dry the outer area after urinating. Maybe she doesn't like the wiping sensation, so revisiting technique may help!
I'd get the redness checked out by a Dr too, just to ensure it's not something else (could be thrush or a skin irritation).
Other than that just supervise and remind, you could even put a row of sparkly stickers under the toilet roll holder so she knows how much to use & might make it more fun.
I have a 4 year old little miss who has also had vaginal redness in the past. I now get her to pat instead of wipe to avoid additional irritation. Have you wormed her? My little one is always super red down there when she gets worms.
I don't wipe when I've wee'd and neither does my daughter - we're both very sensitive to loo paper and find it best not to. Never have we had an issue like this unless my daughter has super acidic wees from citrus. Not wiping is unlikely to be the cause of the redness - I'd say she has irritation from something else.
I'd take her to the doctor to get checked out, not wiping doesn't usually make you all red and sore, unless her nickers are soaking with urine. The few drops of wee wouldn't usually do that.
I'd be ruling out thrush etc