How do people do sitters when there aren't many options?
Young couple, two kids.
Children dont have contact with one side of the family due to safety reasons.
The side that they do have contact with they only have their grandmother who has an illness and is virtually a single parent to two primary aged children (children's uncles) so they only get to have sleepovers there every now and then.
We have been having a lot of relationship issue of late and are working on them currently (counseling, goal planning etc).
We had a night out recently for the first time in a while and we had FUN! Out til about 3 am really enjoying each others company.
We need more opportunities (well more than once every 6 mnths) to spend time together that isnt just watching tv on the couch with the kids in bed.
We have a decent lack of friends too.
I have looked at some agencies for sitting but to have a decent night out it would be very, very expensive and we are only a one income family.
What do you do to give your relationship some priority?
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I just had to pay, I used dial an angel. My sister has found a lovely baby sitter who works privately but it's still a lot of money.
We don't have any family where we live. Our closest relative is 9hrs away.
Hubby is a tradie. We have always gone out for lunch.
I will meet him somewhere.
Even when the kids were little, we had them in daycare.
We both looked forward to it.
We now work together and I still meet him for lunch.
Every time I have organised a baby sitter or someone to take them it falls through.
This works for us.
Maybe find another local mum who's in the same situation and do a reciprocal monthly or fortnightly minding for each other
Seems you will have to pay. Most who I know babysit give up their social life to work weekends. One friend missed several functions due to wanting to be there for the families they care for weekends. Perhaps make a friend who wants the same as you and see if you can share the care?