Hi I have an almost 8 year old son. At night he is in pull up as he wets the bed.. that's fine , I'm hoping he will grow out of that eventually.
But in the last few months he has been wetting himself during the day.. our new house has 4 toilets one of them just for him and he still seemed to wet himself.... on the way to the shops tonight he wet himself ... his excuse "there was no toilet and I couldn't hold on" ... understandable except he could have told me and I would have stopped somewhere ..
Even when he needs to go toilet he doesn't seem to go until he is absolutely busting and can't hold no more .. he could be right next to one and still not go to the last minute because he doesn't want to miss a show or stop playing. I don't know what to do.. even at night we think he's wetting in his pull up before it's bedtime to save himself having To go the toilet
I just don't think he cares or is just lazy .. he comes home from school smelling because he has rushed in the toilet and got wee on his jocks .. some of that is understandable but the wetting himself on purpose isn't and I don't know what to do
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He could be being lazy and it could be a combo of things. Like not recognising the early signs of needing to go. Like when the bladder feels full. Ask him what it feels like when he thinks he needs to go to the toilet, some kids think that's when the wee is about to burst out. He might need some help to understand the earlier warning signs like a hard/full bladder. That could be worked on over the school holidays, by setting an alarm for every 30 minutes. Every 30 minutes you basically stop him doing what he is doing and get him to do a physical body check. 'How does your tummy feel'.
In the meantime I'd be doing enforced toilet time. Set an alarm for every hour and physically take him to the toilet, get the school to send him to the toilet at set times too. Before you leave the house, tell him to go to the toilet. Check in with him regularly, do you need to go?
I find a bit of proactive pestering makes the child realise they are going to make me go anyway, they are going to stop me playing with my toys so I might as well get my shit together.
It could just be laziness, but it is worth speaking to your gp and getting him checked. He could have a UTI or bladder infection that is affecting his ability to know when to go. In the meantime, make him go to the toilet regularly throughout the day, also get the teacher on board with this. If you're noticing the smell after school, the kids at school will be noticing as well. Also, don't put the pullup on until he gets into bed.
My 7yo is exactly the same as this. We have taken him to the continence clinic previously but he wasn't interested so we stopped. I'm on the waiting list to go again now. Part of me thinks he doesn't get a strong signal that he needs to go another part of me thinks he's just lazy. And I'm totally sure he uses his pull up at night so he doesn't have to go to the loo. I'm hoping our next visit to the continence clinic can sort it all out as I never thought I'd still be dealing with nappies at this stage. Good Luck xxx
My 7yo is exactly the same as this. We have taken him to the continence clinic previously but he wasn't interested so we stopped. I'm on the waiting list to go again now. Part of me thinks he doesn't get a strong signal that he needs to go another part of me thinks he's just lazy. And I'm totally sure he uses his pull up at night so he doesn't have to go to the loo. I'm hoping our next visit to the continence clinic can sort it all out as I never thought I'd still be dealing with nappies at this stage. Good Luck xxx
My daughter is 7 and has just recently become toilet trained during the night. We found out the reason she was still wetting the bed was because she was constipated.
She took a powder in her drink (I'm sorry I've forgotten the name but it's over the counter) and it cleared her out.
It made a huge difference to her confidence in going to the toilet. I hope that this helps
Go to the doctor for goodness sake!
Laziness? Are you serious? Get it checked out by a medical professional and help your child