Im going out of my mind.
I found gay/bi porn on my partners computer.
There is straight as well, however there were searches for photos of "big gay dick" only once and was only a couple minutes he was looking at them. Ive seen 2 guy on guy videos. The rest is bi sex 3 somes and trannys... there is plenty of straight stuff as well. Fetish and taboo type stuff.
I did ask him. He admitted to being curious a few times and talked about male gspot and toys etc. Said he would never act on it though. He has no gay tendensices. Im completely thrown.
He said he would never cheat and wants me 10000%
We for the most part have a great sex life..4 or 5 times a week. Sometimes more. Although he has moments where he will go completely cold for a week.
I also just found out I'm pregnant after a miscarriage. I am lookinh at moving back to my home town as i moved here to be with him.
One part of me is like.. so he might be bi... thaats okay! Doesnt mean he will cheat on doesn't love me. The other part wonders if it's more than that. And doesnt want to invest my life with a man who is going to run off with a guy 20 years from now.
Then i feel bad for taking our baby away from him by moving because i know he wants this more than anything.
Please please please
Advice?
Be kind. I have bipolar, anxiety, and ptsd all mixed with preg hormones. Im losing my mind. I also have no friends or supports.
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Gay porn is sexy... like seriously. .. it's on a different level to straight and often not such stupid stories. I'm a woman and I watch gay and sometimes lez though not as much. I'm actually very straight and would never want to do anything with other woman it's just nice to see what pleases other woman coz it gives me ideas on what I might like. Same prob for him he wants to know what experiences he's missing out on. Not gay experiences either
I don't want want to be the one that says to trust your instincts but I will.
My Aunts relationship with my Uncle a relationship that spanned 29 years and 2 kids ended at the end of last year because he could no longer deny the fact that he is gay.
She had no inklings no anything over the period of their relationship until he told her of this at the beginning of last year. She doesn't know if he cheated on her over the years as he had plenty of opportunity being deployed and working away FIFO. It came as a huge shock to her and the family.
Please go with your gut. Don't let yourself be fooled for almost 3 decades because he doesn't know himself or he's too scared to tell the truth.
I'm with you,
I have a guy friend that was married and had a daughter,2 years later left his wife for a guy,
Another friend of mine married a guy and he also left her 5 years after for a guy,
Please IM talk to him...
My husband loves his porn but doesn't get turned on by male/male porn,I like it,but he just doesn't get anything from it...
I will just add,
I've just asked my husband his opinion on your post,
Hate to say it to you,but he said by his search history alone,
Tell her to get the f"&k out of there!!!
Hugs to you!!?Xxx
So you are both going on the fact they ended up gay. You said there were no signs. The fact this husband does probably means he has nothing really to hide. Just because they turned out gay doesn't mean he will
I watch gay porn all the time, I love it! I have DVDs in our cabinet and hubby knows they're there.
I also have a TONNE of lesbian videos and shemale. I would never act upon it though but it turns me on like crazy.
Maybe offer to get a strap on and see what he wants to do? Maybe he's curious as to what it's like to be a taker not a giver. Have you tried anal?
Can I just say in regards to those saying it's a sign and what not, my hubby LOVES lesbian porn. Can't get enough of girl on girl action. Yet when I asked him if we could have a threesome he was disgusted and mortified. I suggested maybe he could watch instead of participate if he felt that way and he said no way. In his mind it's a fantasy and that is all it will ever be. When it came to reality it was a big no no.
My husband and I both watch gay porn. Alone and together. It's sexual interest. It's all okay! Talk to him about it!
I really wouldn't read to much into it. I'm as straight as anything and I LOVE watching woman on woman. It's really sexy. As long as he has reassured you that watching it is as far as it goes, then I'd just drop it. Unless you're really uncomfortable with it... goodluck Im
I really wouldn't read to much into it. I'm as straight as anything and I LOVE watching woman on woman. It's really sexy. As long as he has reassured you that watching it is as far as it goes, then I'd just drop it. Unless you're really uncomfortable with it... goodluck Im
I only watch lesbian porn, two girls, threesomes but I have no desire to be with a woman. I just get really turned on by watching it, I find porn with males in it disturbing, lol. I can't stand it!! Maybe he is the same.
I love lesbian porn. Its the only porn I'll watch.
Hubby is not against having his 'G spot' penetrated either.
Does this mean either of us is gay??
Watching and being curious about male sex stuff doesn't mean he's into men and wants to actually do what he's watching.
Maybe he's just wanting to explore new things with you and he's looking at what excites him.
Ffs haven't you ever heard of privacy? Why were you going through his computer in the first place. Where is the trust?
Fantasy- that's just what porn is. It doesn't mean he's gay or going to run off with a man. Sometimes I watch some types of porn that I would absolutely never do in real life but in the moment, when I'm alone it's just what happens. Leave the poor man alone
Totally off topic but trannys is a very offensive term
Holy wowzer, I could have just about written this post word for word! I too found that my husband had been looking up gay and transexual porn and I freaked out thinking that he was secretly gay and didn't find me sexually attractive at all. I drove myself insane with all these thoughts like he didn't actually want to be with me or that he would one day cheat on me with a man.
After a few weeks of this, I decided to just talk to him about it. After a very lengthy discussion (and several more over the course of a few months) I came to realise that what arouses a person does not define their sexuality. My husband assured me over and over that he loves me and finds me attractive and thoroughly enjoys our sex life!
It was a very eye-opening conversation and lemme just say that we've introduced a few toys and things into the bedroom that have changed our sex life for the better ;-)