My friend has a young son who he lived with and supported up until he was almost 3 years old. He and the child's mum separated and the mother took the child interstate to be close to family. Since then it is has been an uphill battle for him to see his son. The mother decided all visits were to be supervised firstly due to violence, which then didn't hold up in court so then it was due to him supposably not being able to handle his behavioural issues such as ASD. Court orders were made and father followed through on his end, only to have the mother continue to breach orders and withhold the child from unsupervised time. The father pays child support, maintains his phone contact with the child and is forking out thousands and thousand on lawyers to see his son and the mother is still denying basic rights. The decision I guess now is the father is almost at breaking point as to whether he should just give up cause after two years he hasn't had an inch of improvement or success. the mother has had various partners during this time which have all spent time with the son and at times even lived with him. Yet she won't even provide an address or who lives with the son to the father. It's a constant battle. He has to apply for freedom of information for medical records. Even gettting on school enrolment forms. The main suspicion is that she will lose out on child support when the child starts spending time with Dad and she has always claimed single parent and disability even during the course of living with the Dad, never worked. It's extremely frustrating and he feels like giving up but knows he'd be potentially losing his first born son
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This sounds all too familiar . We are currently supporting my bil through something very similar !! My suspicion is that the mother suffers from an undiagnosed mh condition here . I'm sure she has a narcissistic disorder or severe paranoia as I think she really believes her allegations she's making .... that or she's a really good actress . She too is withholding 2 children and not giving any information it's really sad and really difficult because our system really is built to support mothers . Although this can be beneficial in some situations it's really detrimental in others
I'm sorry I have no advice as we too are in the give up or fight the uphill battle position , just a truck load of sympathy and empathy and a cheer on to keep fighting for the child's sake ! That child deserves to know their dad .
There are two sides to every story and I'm sure your only hearing his side of this. If she had withheld the child and breached court orders he should have taken her back to court then and he would need to prove she has breached the order. As for refusing to give him her address, why does he need it? This screams to me that there has been some form of abuse in the relationship and could be why she has gone to such extremes through courts to have supervised visits. My sons father will tell anyone that listens that I withhold our son from him but the truth is he does not try and contact our son hardly at all, maybe every few months he will send a text message. For years after we had separated he would continue with the mental abuse over phone calls and text messages and even following me and driving past my house continuously. It gotto the point where I changed my house number and will only contact him via text messages and refuse calls unless they are prearranged calls to my son. I also have now moved house still within the same town but refuse to let him know where we live. There is no need for him to have my address as far as I'm concerned. Some men will make themselves out to be the victim and act innocent. Don't be so fast to believe everything he tells you
My ex did this at the start. He used to txt abuse me and abuse me over the phone if I didn't awnser on fb straight away. I was looking after our child. He would tell me I had to bring our son out on public transport in the heat when I said I couldn't. I was only mentioning we needed a lift. His family of cause didn't believe me and abused me. I had no proof as it was a phone convo. I think he later confessed coz they changed their tune. He claimed I never let him see our son even though it was an open invitation he just didn't want to travel even though I did most of the traveling while I was pregnant . It eventually worked out and was good for a few years then suddenly he stopped contact a year ago.