Hi imperfect mum's I have this problem my partner has a snap chat account that I thought he wasn't using but people have told me the account has been used and they have received messages from him(those sort of messages) I confronted him he told me he hasn't used for ages, he says someone has hacked it I'm not sure what to do I love this man but hate to have him lie to me it's not like he needs to ask as we do adult stuff we also have three young kids, I am so lost on what to do/believe
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I definitely would not believe him. Call him on his bullshit. If he can't tell the truth then the relationship can't work. Trust is everything.
I'd be telling him he needs to find somewhere else to stay.
So do you think I'm stupid for staying with him
Responder here: as the person who had been on the receiving end of these kinds of messages, YES I think you are silly for staying. These messages are rarely a once off. Guys who send them when called out on there behaviour honestly can't see what they have done wrong, yet don't want there wives to be told. They use all sorts of bullshit to justify there behaviour. The guys who send these messages are not great blokes.
I would probably investigate, hopefully there are some IT snap chat gurus on here who could tell you how to know if the messages came from one of his devices. Why would he send those messages to people he knows would tell you? Sorry, I've never used it so dont really understand what it is all about but hope someone on here can help. Good luck.
I've had some very stupid married male friends send me innapropriate texts etc. yes I've dobbed, but none of them thought I'd dob because they don't actually see a problem with there behaviour until they are called out on it.
That's what I said why would you even do it I just don't know what to think
Totally agree, dont buy it. Nobodys old account gets hacked like this. Ever.
Youre not an idiot for staying but youre hoping your feelings or forgiveness will hold it together but remember you cant control him and if hes the rype that does this, then lies about being hacked - expect it to get worse not better.
It is difficult to have this conversation. Snap chat is an app that every conversation gets deleted and I would assume is a difficult app to hack into. And if they had he should be very concerned.
What does your gut say? The people that are telling you can they show you proof? (They can screenshot it)
It would be a simple thing to prove I guess as if he is active on it would show (like people he has snap chatted) it won't show what was said but that he did send something.
You already know in your gut the answer but its scary to think about. If he's sending messages to people you know he's past the discrete keeping it all a secret cheat and moved onto the let's see what i can get away with cheat.
I'm sorry hun, its time for you to decide whether you deserve better xx