On the weekend I accidentally received a text from a married male friend.
It said "Good Morning my pretty lady. I trust your dreams were fun." with a lips and love heart emoticon.
It was immediately followed with a response of oops sorry that wasn't meant for you it was meant for such and such its her birthday today.
The last time I saw these friends I had concerns that he may be up to something but I couldn't prove anything so I left it but now this text has got me really thinking that he is cheating on her.
So I asked him straight out if he was cheating and he never actually answered the message just stated that the message went to me by mistake.
I am just not sure what to do. I know if I told my friend it would break her heart, but on the other hand I don't want to get in the middle of anything if there is nothing there and create a rift.
I have no idea what to do now that I am in this awkward position.
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Cheating breaks your heart but that doesnt mean its better not knowing. Forward it to her without suggesting anything, just that it happened & was meant for so and so not you just so she knows. It may not be enough to leave him but it will start the thoughts and support any other clues decen people give her, so she can put it together eventually.
I'd be concerned. Some people are just over friendly in general though. I have a male friend who calls all the women in his life sweetie and will say things like what was in the message. He was single when we met and I assumed he liked me. I was crushed when I realised that was just his way. Anyway my point is is that how he communicates in general or is it specific to the person? I don't think there is quite enough to go running to his partner.
Sweetie is a fare stretch from my pretty lady though....
I think I would just mention to your friend that her husband accidently sent you the message that was ment for her and see what she says..show her what it says and go from there..if she received the message after he realised he sent it to the wrong person then obviously it was ment for her if she didn't get it then it obviously went elsewhere
Was it's his Wife's birthday?? If not, I'd contact the Guy and give him a time frame in which to come clean with his Wife or you'll forward the messages to her.
Are you his friend or hers?
If you're his friend I'd tell him I'm highly disappointed in him and that if he's going to prove to be "that" person you will not condone his behaviour nor welcome him and his pretty lady into your lives.
If you're her friend, tell him he has 24 hours to explain himself to his wife before you bring it up with her.
I'd have a private chat to her, ask how things are between her and douche, she'll either open up or ask you why you're asking, you can tell her the situation then
I would want to know. I know it is no one else business but if my husband were cheating and others knew and didn't tell me I would be so upset. I still feel guilty about someone I knew was cheating as the poor wife was so embarrassed and upset. I caught the hubby with his screw -making out half naked swimming. The wife served me at her work telling someone yeah he had to work longer hours that day! I wasn't friends with either of them but this poor woman had her hubby screwing around for 6 months that I had seen. The wife seemed to know the two were friendly just not how friendly.