Soo my first date with a new guy was 8 weeks ago and im currently 7w3d pregnant. He has 2 children from 2 separate relationships one of which he has full time (mother lives in another state) and i have a child which i also have full time (his father walked out due to health issues and wanting to just be free).
We have known each other for 10 years since i was 16 but never been super close.
We are keeping the baby, termination was never an option. However hes driving me crazy. He is such a great caring guy but some days him just touching me annoys me. Hes good looking so its not an issue with attraction.
I am really starting to become concerned, i dont know if im just irritable because ive been rather sick so far or wether its really just not going to work.
I have my shit together at 26, i own a large brand new home which i worked my ass off to build and other then a mortgage i am debt free and very on top of my finances and he is the opposite.
He was sleeping between friends houses when we started seeing each other but has moved in with me because it seemed logical at the time and he didn't have a stable home for hos children.
I have given both his children their own room which means i will now need to convert my sons play room into the nursery as all 5 bedrooms will now be taken.
He cooks and cleans but i feel like my perfect tidy home is now overrun with clutter and mess. Which really adds to the frustration.
Has anyone been in a situation where you started to dislike you partner due to hormones? Or is this really doomed?
As much as i never saw myself with 2 children to different fathers thats now my reality and i am stable enough to do it on ky own if required.
New relationship and pregnancy
New relationship and pregnancy
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Ok, from experience my relationship with my sons father would have lasted weeks if I hadn't gotten pregnant. Some relationships just aren't supposed to make it, and rushing/progressing the relationship because of a pregnancy rarely works out.
It's easy to put feelings down to 'hormones' but so strikes they are genuine feelings.
Just because someone is a great guy and helpful doesn't mean you are supposed to live with them.
No where in your post did you say you loved him. Listen to your heart. Don't force something as it just makes it worse in the long run and isn't fair on the kids.
This isnt due to hormones. Youre doing things you dont wnat to do because youre pregnant. The chance of this working out is already really slim especially given his history and whats happened already in only 8 weeks since date 1. Stay true to yourself, not the picture of what a happy family looks like, but what love and relationships look like to you if you arent pregnant. You still deserve all that. Now more than ever actually.
Its really nuts that he and kids have moved in already. Youre giving a lot. And risking an awful lot! You wouldnt do it if you werent pregnant, dont do it now. look after yourself first, your house, your kids and he can come to the party in the right way.
i think you would have a lot better chance if he moves out and you go back to dating and treat this as very possibly being a single mum, planning that way, but giving him the chance to step up and sort himself out and if he does thats great.
It's doomed, he has already had 2 children to 2 different women, that has to tell you he most likely isn't a keeper. You share different core values, he hasn't got his shit together and he is a father to 2, so probably not likely to any time soon. Your kid shouldn't have even met him let alone live with him. You sound like you are desperately trying to do the right thing for everyone else except yourself, but you are the priority!! I agree with the other comment, he moves out, you continue to date and see how it goes. Good luck, I hope it works out.
How irresponsible of you to get pregnant to someone you cant stand. I am sorry but you are having a child for the sake of it.
End it now! And kick this free loader out. It will only get worse. These feelings have nothing to do with hormones. Listen to your intuition and stop making excuses, and do not compromise your independent life with your son to be overrun with his crap and his kids.
Keep this baby if that's what you want, keep seeing this guy if that's what you want, but do not live with him.
What I got out of all this was he clearly doesn't use protection. Get an STD check! Eew