I have been a single mum to my 6 year old son since conception. My sons dad hasn't been a big part of his life and it's been over a year since we have seen him and 6 months since we heard from him.
Today I got a call from my sons grandmother to tell me that my sons dad has had a stroke and is in icu.
My question is do I tell my son what has happened or do I just leave it?
My son doesn't ask about his dad much at all and I'm worried about what it will start if I do tell him.
Sons father has stroke
Sons father has stroke
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Tough one. I'm in two minds. But unless you are prepared or are going to take your son to visit his dad I wouldn't say anything. Dad opted out over a year ago, so I feel like, screw him, don't upset the child.
But I also feel that if his dad doesn't pull through he could miss the chance to say goodbye and it could ease the way for the grieving process..
Is he expected to pull through?
No i wouldnt jump and pull your child into it right now. I would wait and see. I would tell the child, but not jump straight to taking child there, just tell them so they know what you do, and receive information but no action. Just keep in touch with his mum and play it by ear for now.
I would tell him and give him the option to go and visit him if he feels like it is something he wants. Eventually he will ask questions about his dad when he is old enough and depending how serious the father's condition is, it may be one of his only opportunities to see him and you don't want him to hold onto hate further down the track knowing he wasn't able to say goodbye/see him before something worse happens.