Opinions please. Master 10 while visiting dad's home managed to add $230 to the Internet bill by going over the download limit. I'm all for him being disciplined in regards to this but the ex expects me to withdraw the money from the savings account that I set up at birth and put money into for when he is older. I don't think that I should be paying for what happened there but rather he should do chores at dads to earn the money back. Now he won't drop his school shoes back because I won't pay the bill. Argh why is it so difficult? Master 10 has been getting into trouble daily due to wearing the wrong shoes. Apparently this is dad teaching him a lesson so he won't forget his shoes again, he's not a child anymore. Umm yes he is, he's 10 and yes I've organized new school shoes.
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Dad can just shove it and should be supervising master 10 and Internet use!
Jeez how does a kid go that much over, means dad was not supervising
Oh my- what a child! Firstly, it's not on you what happens when he is at his dads. His dad should be monitoring internet usage more closely if he doesn't want him to go over the downloads! If dad fails to do so, then dad has to deal with the consequences and hand down consequences to your son appropriately.
Secondly, depriving a child of much needed school resources (yes, resources include uniform) is just wrong. That's not a punishment, that's just dad being childish! I hope he doesn't behave this way often!!!
Nope! Wow dad wants you to pay? Wish i had someone i could invoice every time MY kid cost me money! the fact hes holding school shoes for ransom explains everything, what a dick...
Absolutely not... kids cost money. It's called responsibility! That's his issue for not supervising! He is well within his rights to punish the child but kepping his school shoes from him? What is he 5? That's ridiculous.
At Christmas time my boys were at their dads house, he brought them an Xbox one (to which they agreed to pay half of! Without talking to me about it. And I will not take the money out of their account to pay) which you apparently have to set up with the internet... anyway this added a few extra hundred dollars the the internet bill! Lesson learned. No, you shouldn't take the money from your sons account.
His house, his problem! Withholding school shoes is ridiculous, I would drive around and demand them.
Definitely agree..should be doing chores to earn it back! Especially since it happened at his house..buy another pair of shoes instead of you can!
How on earth does a child go over the download limit to that extent whilst visiting. Telstra charges $10 per gb over the limit, thats 23gb! I'm fairly certain your son wouldn't be the only one to blame. My whole family (heavy internet users) don't use that much in a weekend on online gaming, netflix, youtube etc Unless they were downloading shows/movies or watching porn, I doubt it was just your son. Ask the dad to send you the internet usage chart for the days he's claiming your son went over.
Could it be he was hot spotting from his phone? If so, more fool him I guess...
My current Telstra ADSL 500GB offers 3 free top ups a year. Soon to move to NBN area where as you say, it's $10 per gb over that. Family of 4 plus 2 extra young adults for 2 weeks at a time, heavy gamers, Netflix, YouTube, face bookers, etc and still don't go over
Think about if this happened at your home, how would you handle it? And yes it all depends on the child's age. Ten is young. My 17 yo son has an iPhone he paid for but I pay for credit, which is meant for emergency calls or texts. He accidentally left data on and used up the $20 I'd just put on it, so I told him he owes me the $20. His only source of money is bday money and the allowance I pay him for mowing and feeding animals, etc. He is desperate to buy a car, so yes he feels even the small amount of $20 being taken out, but he needs to learn about consequences. My son has autism and dyslexia, so my approach is not just about age appropriate, but developmental appropriation as well.
Buy a new pair of shoes, make sure you have a set of everything he needs so you can't be held ransom again, then in a text, calmly decline his suggestion of withdrawing money, which has no immediate effect on the child anyway, and suggest he negotiate a chores list with your son, to work off half of the bill. The other half dad needs to suck up, as he should be monitoring the internet usage!!! Maybe he needs to upgrade his internet package, if he intends on using YouTube as a baby sitter....
Dad can get stuffed, his job to parent. No way should you/child pay