Why can't I get pregnant? I've just turned 30, and my partner and I have been trying for nearly 2 years now. Im 5 ft 7, 100kgs, and drink and smoke occasionally. I know none of those things help, but I know women that are a lot older, heavier, smoke more, drink more, all the things you shouldn't but manage to have 3 or 4 kids and fall pregnant within a few months of trying. So why isn't it working for us? The first few months of trying I stopped drinking and smoking and tried to go for a walk a couple of times a week, but then when it didn't work I gave up. We so desperately want another child. First child is 11 so was a lot younger back then, but I was still very unhealthy when I fell pregnant with him. I know I should just go to the doctor but I'm scared that I won't be able to have any more babies.
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Go to your doctor...he/she could give you a better answer than we could.
Could be 100 things, could be nothing. But until you go to the doctors you just won't know. It might be something really simple. But if you don't go you'll just continue to wonder
Change your diet, try and eat healthy and take elevit to give your body vitamins, cut down/quit smoking and dont drink too much..try to loose some weight and get some exercise and have frequent sex..fingers crossed it will work soon.. but yes def visit your gp and ask his advice..good luck
Time to go to the dr xx
You know all the extra things you'd need to try because you've just stated them all yourself. Becoming healthier and seeing your doctor are your main options.
Go to the doctor. At that weight check for PCOS as it may be contributing to it. We were struggling however I'm a size 12, drink but never smoke but not active. We started walking every single night and used pre seed and bam pregnant. I was labelled infertile a few months beforehand.
I was trying for a while too. Was overweight and dropped down to low 80kg and fell pregnant. I had a friend who is 130kg and falls pregnant just thinking of sex. Everybody is different. Going to a Dr, they will probably tell you the same thing. Try to lose at least 15kg. It may work for you. Why wouldn't you want to try, even though women heavier have kids. Go see a GP. You may need to go see a a Specialist. The longer you wait be scared, the harder it may be to fall pregnant
I HAVE RECENTLY STARTED SEEING A NEW DOCTOR AS I AM TRYING TO CONCEIVE ASWELL. I WAS TOLD THAT EACH WOMAN ONLY HAS 1 IN 5 CHANCES OF FALLING PREGANT, AND ALTHOUGH IT SEEMS EVERYONE AROUND YOU IS FALLING IT IS A LOT HARDER THAN PEOPLE THINK. THERE IS ONLY ONE DAY PER MONTH THAT IT HAPPENS!! (I KNOW THE LIFESPAN OF THE SPERM ETC) BUT IT IS ONLY ONE DAY A MONTH THAT IS THE DAY IF YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE A MIRACLE. AND THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS THAT HAVE TO BE PERFECTLY RIGHT WITH YOUR BODY FOR IT TO HAPPEN. I WALKED OUT OF THERE FEELING SO MUCH BETTER AND LESS OF FAILURE KNOWING THE FACTS. IT MAKES ME NOW FEEL EVER SO GRATEFUL FOR THE TWO CHILDREN I HAVE, AND IF IT HAPPENS IT HAPPENS - SOONER RATHER THAN LATER HOPEFULY. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND REMEBER YOUR BODY NEEDS TO BE THE PERFECT CONIDITON TO CONCIEVE AND EVEN THEN IT IS A MIRACLE. X
Quite clearly can't be something you want that badly when you won't go see the doctor and you quit trying to get healthier the second it didn't result in pregnancy quickly enough.
Don't compare to other people because you will just be disappointed. I have three girlfriends. All of whom are over the 100kg mark, smokers and enjoy a fairly lax diet. Two have fallen pregnant not a drama. The other has not and after ruling out every possible thing it could be, weight and lifestyle are the only thing left. It's totally not fair but it is what is and she has to adapt in order to reach her goal of having a child. Falling pregnant is harder than people think. Keep up the healthy lifestyle change, make yourself a vision board of what you want to achieve and take it a day at a time. Speak to your doctor as well and see if they can help put you on a path that works for you <3