Been with my husband forever and we are happy, very happy. We have 3 beautiful children happy and healthy, both happy in our employment ect - everything just seems to be falling into place, then boom 'your pregnant' crap..
I have had abortions in the past and don't want to go down that path. But I don't want to start again either.
We have got holidays booked and paid for and are really looking forward to enjoying our kids and the next part of them growing up, travel and bigger play.. we have plans and this is not in our plans.. what to do, what to do????????
I'm pregnant! Crap!!
I'm pregnant! Crap!!
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Unfortunately if you don't want an abortion you are having a baby
I also dont want to have an abortion again, i imagine nobody does, but theres times where you make the hard choices.
Seems you need to really consider all options without bias, think more long term, and decide if you can go through having another child or really want life to continue as it is.
I have also had a surprise pregnancy and think that if you decide that you could have a fourth child you will come around to 'starting again' and get your head in the right frame of mind. You just need time to come to terms with the change of plans.
Equally if you are finished at 3, you will come to terms with a termination.
Neither is easy, take your time and one will feel more right for you.
Have this wonderful soul.. embrace it and work with it hard as it may be I am not against abortion but I am for a wonderful life that can bring soo many new memories new life paths and wonderful times I feel if you were in doubht you would not have posted feel the flutters and enjoy this beautiful angel that has chosen to enhance your already blessed life ?
There will always be holidays many more just a little bit more away how much better will they be with a beautiful bundle addition to add to thise memories DO IT blessings whatever you choose even if you abort this bundle will always be around spiritually with your family
Pls take time to process it, I rushed in and had an abortion at 5 weeks. I regret it and I also have 3 kids. Goodluck with whatever you decide xx
I can see where you are coming from. I had a similar experience to you minus the abortions. We already had two kids. We didn't want more. Careers thriving, holidays booked. And then just after paying deposit for holidays I found out I was pregnant. We were disappointed with timing but for us there was no question this baby was meant to be. Then one surprise turned into a double surprise of twins. Best blessing. I won't deny it's hard but we manage and I still work. So you will cope. Good luck ?
You said it yourself. It's not in your plans. You're extremely happy with your life.
If I were in your position, I'd terminate. Then I would either get my husband to have the snip or my tubes tied.
Weigh up the pros and cons.
How will a fourth fit in.
Will you need a new car?
Bigger house?
Will you need to give up your job?
Sounds like you have a wonderful life, is there room for one more?
If you were done at 3, wouldn't you have done something permanent to stop pregnancy i.e. vasectomy?