SIL had her first baby 6 months ago . .
I get she's excited and it's her first baby .
But she's had baby shower , born party Christmas , she's 12 weeks party plus I've
Sent and given gifts along the way cause I want too .
It now she's having a naming day . Which that's fine , but she isn't religious. I feel it's just to hand another day for her and her baby ! What about what the father wants ?
Honestly we can't afford another present . We are struggling enough with or family and kids .
Is it rude to not bring a gift ? What gifts are expected these days at naming days ?
I honestly don't even want to bring one cause we have given so much already !! I get it's exciting tour first baby but we have kids too and it's getting to be a bit much ..
I hate sounding mean or rude but why are your thoughts ? What would you do ?
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Nope no gift, enough is enough. I wouldn't be offended if you didn't bring a gift to any of those 'events'.
If you want to have that many 'days' you can't expect a gift everytime.
PS naming days aren't religious ceremonies. They are for those who aren't religious and there for don't want a christening (but I've never seen the point).
I think if youve given one baby gift then youre done unless you want to give more. It should be out of love not obligation. Naming days are sometimes held by the council they give out showbags of samples and baby things. I dont think you give anything just go along if you want.
I would get a cardboard 3d cut-out thing of the first letter of her name and get the kids to decorate it for her. That and a nice handmade card. That way you are giving a lovely thoughtful gift but it doesn't cost much and is something she can keep.
Seriously you can't part with$10 for your niece or nephew. A little baby. Yeah it might be to much celebrations for the birth of a baby. Your sister inlaw has gone abit overboard but she is excited. Don't be a kill joy. If you make this an issue all you will be achieving is hurt. Just go along with it. I can assure you she will be spending a fortune entertaining and hosting the event than what people's gifts would cost. Btw nameing days are not religious...
Some people really cant aftord $10 for out of the family, and she did say shes already given gifts most people have a limit.
Maybe a little book, you can get them for under $5. Still a gift but not an expensive one. And get your kids to make a homemade card and colour in paper for wrapping paper.
I'm not a big fan of all the parties too but it's family so I usually let it slide and bring something little.
It's over the top, I have an only child and I didn't even have a baby shower!! I have never even heard of a naming party. I agree with some of the others to make a card with the kids with a lovely written poem