So I haven't had sex for over a year and I'm at the point it's driving me crazy haha. I dont go out to meet anyone, i have my daughter all the time (there's no shared custody and that's not a problem for me I love it) and I don't meet anyone new. But I'm so keen to have sex as bad as that is lol.
How did everyone meet someone else? I'm not keen for a relationship I dont think I'm in the right head space still but I don't want to sleep around either. Friends with benefits maybe. How does it work Haha. I haven't been in this situation for years and I'm kinda lost.
Is it weird I'm so wound up about not having sex? Arghhhhh one frustrated mummy. I tried the tinder thingy but I don't feel comfortable bringing strange men into my house with my daughter. Am I weird? I also feel like I'm a bit of a snob when it comes to the judging the profile. If someone looks like they drink loads, do drugs, take no pride in their appearance, do the finger or other not so cool symbols with their hands, etc am I the only one that feels that way? Also if someone messages me too much when I don't reply quick enough that's it I don't talk to them anymore. I've put on a bit of weight some of my photos are before that but I've updated to add recent ones. I'm back trying to loose the weight but I've lost my confidence. It feels weird to meet someone just to have sex.
Help a mummy out.... how do I get rid of this frustration
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Firstly it's totally cool to meet guys to just have sex. I have done that a number of times but it's important to be safe.
Definitely don't have them come to your house when your daughter is there, that's just not cool and it's not safe. You'll need to get your daughter babysat. That's just life of a single mum. If my parents were baby sitting I would just have the cover story of 'meeting a friend for a coffee'. Don't say a movie or your might have to talk about it! If you can't get a babysitter then get yourself a fabulous vibrator and have at it.
There are a number of different websites and apps you could use, free or otherwise. Experiment with them. I like the ones you could state what you are looking for 'dating but nothing serious' 'friends with benefits' what ever.
Some safety things though DO NOT meet at there house or your house the first time. Meet for a coffee or drink in a neutral location, then it's up to you if you want things to go further. You do need to have some safety boundaries in place.
But yourself a nice vibrator ("catch of the day " are selling them at the moment, watch some porn and enjoy yourself. )
There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a sex buddy.
Could you hire an escort? Would get the job done lol?
Masturbation my friend!!!
Look after yourself, in every sense of the word!
I wouldn't bring a stranger to my home either. Enjoy being single, work on getting health, mind spirit and body. Take a class, join a club. You'd be surprised the places you can meet someone, and if you are shining and happy in your life, you will attract friends, male and female.
And you're right to be cautious and discerning when vetting out the knob heads. Don't waste your time with anyone you don't feel comfortable with in the initial stages of a conversation. It's not likely the sex will be good either...
If you've got the cash, pay for a professional. I would!
Oh mumma it's completely normal to have those feelings and let's face it it's been awhile for you and you too deserve some release. I too am a single mum but I have 4 kids so I get your frustration to get yourself out there. Jump onto the dating websites and put yourself out there and see what happens.
I have only just started getting back out there and it's hard with 4 kids however you just need to be flexible and so do your mates.
I am not one to give it up quickly to just anyone so yes you do need to meet in a neutral place to see if you click in that way.
Get excited and have some fun but be safe about it. Enjoy xo
Im a single mum too, I live in a unit block of just 4 units and I'm currently shagging my neighbour hahahaha he's from Brazil and just staying the summer then moving into the city so it's PERFECT!! I relate to you though, sometimes you just want a mans touch and have some fun but don't want to feel cheap. It's a tough one! Just be safe, whatever you chose and don't bring a random to your place or even let them know where you live. Too dangerous! Best of luck!