My ex is refusing to allow our child to participate in a weekend sport on his care weekend. He has said he will not take her to anything that is in his time. He doesn't have to pay, I will. It is a 20 min drive from his home. The sport she wants to do is only available on a weekend. She hasn't started yet but I don't want to have her go only each alternate weekend. We have court orders however there is nothing in there that covers extra curricular activities. Has anyone been able to get their ex to take their child to a weekend sport even if it's in the other persons care time? Is there something I can do through the courts? He has declined mediation. Our daughter is 7.
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My husbands ex wife was the same, she refused to take my stepdaughter to swimming lessons on her Saturday and any other sport she done had been to be a day we had her. Lucky the swim centre was understanding and let her go fortnightly. It wasn't until my stepdaughter started asking her mum why she never took her to swimming lessons that she had a change or heart and started taking her, she came around a bit more to and let her do another weekend sport. Maybe if it's something your daughter really wants to do get her to talk to her dad about it. It sucks when the other parent doesn't think about what the child wants
My ex is the same which is why I found classes that she can do after school on weekdays instead of in the weekend.
I have a feeling you have no say to tell him how to spend his time on his weekend. Which is understandable for him but really sad for the child stuck in the middle. is this a new sport or continued? Im thinking if not, is there any alternative she could do for this year to avoid the conflict? Tell her the places are full for this term and offer her weekday alternatives.
could negotiate taking her yourself and giving him a different time or an extra day per term? He doesnt sound very open to talking about it.
He's under no obligation to do anything you want while she's in his care. If it's not something you can both agree on then you'll have to find a sport she can do during the week.
Some people are just too selfish!! Every fortnight my partner drives 3hrs return to collect his son on friday afternoons and the same 3hrs to drop home on Sundays.
In Rugby League/Soccer season (whichever he dicides to play) all 3 of us drive the 1hr 30 on Saturdays so he play then drive the 1hr 30 back home. We have been doing this and paying half registration fees for the last 11 years.
It would be easier and so much cheaper if we didn't have to. But Stepson loves sports. It is for the benefit of the child. I don't understand why parents can't get that.
My daughter wanted to start playing netball last year and the only reason I signed her up was because they could work around her not being there every second weekend. I explained that to her father and he chose not to have her at all.