How did you know where to settle and raise children ?
I currently live in North Qld with Hubby & 2 kids (1&3) We have some family here but nothing supportive or the type of family that will really have much influence on our childrens life. I personally love North Qld.
The weather , the shops, taking the kids to the beach and the amount of stuff you can do with children here. I suspect my husband is over living here (not confirmed but strong suspicion) I dont feel he is happy here but wont admit to that no matter how many times I try to ask or talk about it.(Also suspicious he may not even be aware he is over it) Husband and I both grew up in a Victorian town where our entire family still live. I feel like my Husband would be more settled and happy there as he is close to his parents and it does make me warm & fuzzy to see the kids love there grandparents, cousins and other family so much whenever we are there on family holidays. The problem is its the opposite to North Qld! It's cold and sometimes snows , its a small country town with not much to do and can be rather clicky and get boring.....but I just have this constant nagging feeling that I'm doing the wrong thing for the kids not raising them around family ?? I know I could be happy living there and just keep wondering if the best thing to do is move back to our family ?? Does it really matter where you raise kids ? Are my kids going to grow up and say why would you leave North Qld and raise us here ect......any advice from people would be appreciated :-)
Extra info - Husbands is fifo so doesn't matter where we live.
Where did you choose to raise your family ?
Where did you choose to raise your family ?
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Why does it have to be where you live forever? Honestly unless your kids are in high school why can't you go live there for a year and see how you like it.
I used to love moving as a kid. It was an adventure. We'd stay for a few years and then move on. I met loads of lifetime friends that way.
I have just moved to a country town after living in Sydney my whole life. I could have stayed in Sydney for the rest of my life but I know my partner needed a change. Also the sky rocketing price of houses in Sydney meant we could never afford to own our own home unless we bought rural and we were tired of renting and not having something that was 'ours'. His family also live where we have moved. All these things motivated us to do it and so far so good :) I'm not going to lie. There are things I dislike about being here and I worry about not giving my kids the best opportunities But you will never know until you try and you can always make the move back if things do not work out. For us, it matters where we raise our kids only in that we are happy where we are. All the rest of it we just deal with and we make opportunities for ourselves.
I live in FNQ and cold sounds bloody lovely right now lol! Kids adapt..being near family is both wonderful and annoying..but worth it if they're a great support system...not an easy decision but if you move and hate it..I guess you can always come back :) good luck!
We moved interstate. Went north from Vic. No friends or family, just 'felt' right to be here. Plenty of challenges but such a better lifestyle (warmer). My kids were school age, now all teens.
While I sometimes question being away from family, I know for sure I could never move back. It's been 9 years. I fly down solo regularly for a few days and take the kids roughly once a year, normally for a wedding, funeral, etc.
Some of my family come up annually, rent a lovely big home and we all hang out.
Maybe try a year down there while the kids are still young, but honestly, if he's not communicating his needs, and it's causing friction, go see a counselor. He might not be coping with the FIFO lifestyle as apposed to not enjoying FNQ. Get the man talking!!
My mum moved us up to Port Douglas when I was 7 and we didn't have any family there... me, mum and my brother. We made some amazing friends and my friends families became my extended family. I had the best childhood I could have imagined. However, there is still a hole in my heart from the family memories I missed out on. Although we flew down for school holidays, it's not quite the same. Now as an adult I have a craving for a massive family. I feel like I missed out not having them around. But if it was between my amazing childhood and this feeling now I would pick my childhood... but port Douglas in the 90s isn't how it is now! Hope that helped but I really just went round in circles haha