My partner has just recently been approved for a new job, its 3 weeks away 1 week home. The job is excellent income which we desperately need, im just feeling unsure about all the time he will spend away....i should probably add im 25 weeks pregnant with his first child and i have a 4 year who suffers severe social anxiety, so hormones and stress are probably adding to it as well. I know lots of women do fantastic with hubby's or partners working away, but ive never had to and im feeling very nervous....my partner taking this job is a must for financial reasons and i know deep down its the right thing....but i cant help but feel nervous....ive been a single mum before and handled that perfectly fine, so im sure ill be fine but cant shake the nerves....anyone in the same boat or have been through something similar....whats some advice, tips or anything that will help calm the nerves
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Just remember it's not the same as being a single mum. While he's away you can talk to him on the phone, you can still talk to each other and make decisions together. It's easier than being a single mum. You have been a single mum before and you can do it.
I have been doing it for about 4.5 yrs now. Starting with 3 kids now 4 kids. Communication is the key. Talk every day. If you can be on a phone plan where calls to each are free do it. Dont fall into the trap of out of sight out of mind. Find a routine that works for you and the kids and stick to it when he is home. He needs to realise he needs to go with whatever routine you have otherwise when he is back on shift you are left with chaos. When he is home make the most of your time together as a family and as a couple. And remember its just as hard on him being away and missing out as it is on you doing it by yourself.
My partner does 3 weeks on 1 week off as well! Someone else has offered great advise eg talking everyday,.spending time as a family when hes home, and it being equally hard on you both so i tcant offer much advise. I find myself getting envious sometimes of the fifo mums whos partners do 4 weeks on and 4 weeks off because 1 week really goes so fast (i know they r both challeging) but its nice to know there are others whos parner works the same as mine ??