How do I stop feeling like I don't love my unborn baby?
It's so sad and I hate myself for feeling this way but it has a lot to do with issues to do with my partner and I lay here balling my eyes out saddened thinking about how scared I am that I won't love him when he comes out.
I'm a mum already and raised him on my own from day one and loved him the moment I fell pregnant but this one I did love but things have been so complicated and this pregnancy has been made hell and I see all the things I don't like in my partner suddenly and I'm scared I won't love this bub cause he will be raised by him and be like him and his family and I don't like some of the way he parents . He's in no way a bad guy but I suddenly realised my son and are polar opposites to him and his son.
Is this normal scared?
I'm happy most days but I feel no connection anymore to bub and not excited. I know what depression feels like and iv been suffering a lot more anxiety. But I don't really feel depressed but I do have my days like anyone else.. But I don't have much support or people to talk to or even friends but I will look into speaking to someone. But has anyone else felt like this? Is it pre baby nerves?
Or am I totally loosing the plot with all these hormones?
Please no harsh judgment I feel terrible as it is.. Thanks imperfect mums.
Is it normal to feel like this?
Is it normal to feel like this?
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I've just had my second Bub, already had a girl who I love so much I didn't think it would be possible to love another child. I was so scared as you are that I wouldn't have that love and connection with my second as I didn't quite feel the same pregnant either. But the minute she was born and I saw how similar she looked to my first and how precious she was, (two girls now) I fell madly inlove with her and actually bawled my eyes out. Now the love I have for both my girls is unbelievable, I just didn't think it was possible. I didn't feel that way with my first, I didn't cry when I saw her and while I loved her when she was born it wasn't something instant like many women say. It took days to get used to even having a child. If your really concerned maybe talk to your midwife because I'm sure she's had many of the same questions and can give you some good advice. You will be ok mumma! Just trust yourself and know this tiny new baby is going to be loved no matter what. Go easy on yourself and know there's so much help out there. Xx
If your lack of love for this unborn baby is due to issues with your partner and him raising it too, you need to look at why you call him your partner and not your ex. 99.9% sure you fix that issue and the fear will subside enough to enjoy your baby. Good luck, it's hard but you know it's the right thing for you and bub.