My kids are being excluded by the exs family. I know it's out of my control but it doesn't stop my heart from breaking that they're missing out on birthday parties etc with their cousins. Not sure what I'm asking exactly - just need some support I guess because at this time of year it's upsetting me more than normal.
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It might not be a deliberate exclusion. Depending on who has care of the children and when it can be really tricky for some families to know how to handle this.
For our family we always tried to organise parties when my sister had her kids but it wasn't always possible. Rightly or wrongly the perception is that asking there dad to let them come in his time creates a lot of Drama (Dad whinges that we took 'his time' and then punishes my sister later by sending s barrage of nasty texts).
Sometimes the kids are invited and the parent (in this case dad) just can't be bothered organising it!
Make sure you let his family know that you are willing to make the kids available for any future family gatherings.
Same thing is happening. I don't know if it's coz his dads not seeing him but they don't seem to want him either. They didn't invite him to christmas for the first time in 5 years. He has only been invited to one birthday and they missed his last birthday which if they can't come they always have him over soon after but nothing.