Please no judgements
Ive found out I'm pregnant with my 3rd child. Ive always wanted another child but after it becoming a reality my husband and I have discussed it and decided that we just cant continue with it as we just cant afford it. I'm booked in for a medical abortion and wondered if anyone has had one. I dont know what to expect. I didn't want to have a surgical abortion but dont know what to expect as far as bleeding and cramping. Will there initially be a lot of blood? Please no anti abortion comments. Its hard enough without being judged. I haven't told anyone and feel a bit alone.
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Also this wasn't planned and i was on the pill
I weighed up my options between a medical termination and a surgical termination and opted to have a surgical termination and honestly it's not as bad as you think. You take a small pill wait an hour your asleep for around 30 minutes or so and afterwards it's like a period. With minimal pain which painkillers will help with. Don't he scared IM you will be fine. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you x
I have had both.
Had a medical first and let me tell you. I would not recommend it to anyone.
I hated being at home and passing the baby, the blood. Oh my god the blood. ?? cramps were terrible as well. I was lethargic, moody, and the cramps were terrible where I was popping panadol like it was going out of style.
The DNC was better for me. Done and dusted. Mild cramps as soon as I woke up, I'd say 2/10 pain. That I could get on with life normally. First period was a bit messy, but say normally if I let my pads fill up without changing I'd do maybe 3 a day. I was going 5 on the first day.. etc. so just a little heavier than normal (hope this is making sense) then was fine after that.
After the medical, my period was horrendous. And took AGES for my cycle to become remotely regular again.
Don't feel alone. You make the choice that best suits you. no judgement here.
I will recommend one thing to you. Take the free Councelling service they provide you. You might not think you need it. But. Just in case xx
Thank you this really helps me know what to expect. I know its going to be horrible but will deal with it and yes will certainly look at the counselling. I have had a surgical one many year ago and just wanted to be in the comfort of my own home this time (even if that sounds stupid) xx
I too have just found out I'm Pregnant with our 3rd.
We already have a 10yr old and 6yr old and not in any way ready for another financially or mentality. We have just sold our house and are in between homes till our new one is ready, I've also just started a new role at work and have just passed 12 months with the company.
I'm shattered that I've put myself in this position.
I've chosen a surgical abortion. Monday 19th of December will be a shit day, but at this stage of our life a baby isn't what we want and I don't have a won't for one. ☹️?
(12 months down the track we maybe in a better position for another baby) I won't to still afford the lifestyle we have with our older children.
Ive had the surgical. And the clinic I attended recommend the surgical over the medical as its done there and honestly I spotted for like 2hours but no cramping at all.
But they said the pain and blood can be intimidating from the medical. But do what is best for you and hubby.
I wanted a medical termination but one of the things that make me choose surgical was that of the medical doesn't work you have to have surgical.
Surgical seems scary but they drug you do the procedure and then you make up not knowing anything, I had practically no bleeding.
Good luck u can do it, great working thinking about your entire family
Hi there, I was on here a little while ago posting the exact same question. I already had 3, and was in no position to have another.
I had a surgical abortion and it was fine. I waited 9 days to make sure I was 100% sure- I was 90% sure when I had it, the other 10% was guilt.
It was fine, it has not affected my life since.
If you are sure, then u will be fine. Good luck x
Wow. This is like I wrote it. I am going through exactly the same thing at the moment - on the pill. Unplanned and very confident in our decision but doesn't make it any easier. Wasn't given and option of surgical. Going in on Monday. Hugs and you're not alone. I'm here with you on the same journey x
I have recently had a medical abortion. The nurse, doctor and everyone were extremely supportive of me as an individual and it was comforting not to be judged.
It's not the easiest experience emotionally,afterwards for me anyway for a few months was hard... But physically it was a bit of intense cramping and mostly like a heavy period,depending what stage you are at you do pass some big clots and it can be a little uncomfortable,I had a mostly light period for about 10days afterwards. ..i was about 7weeks along when I had the medical termination.
Have a decent support person with you and be prepared to stay home for a day or two to let the process take place and recover. Although I'd say each experience with abortion is individual just like pregnancy and childbirth.
I wish you all the Best
Xx
I've had both and honestly the surgical was less traumatic for me. The medical one was so drawn out and felt like a miscarriage. I was passing massive clots and I was almost passing out all of the time. The surgical felt like it was over and done with once I left the clinic (aside from some light bleeding for a week or so).
I've had both too. Medical early this year. Even though the medical was I but more intense I prefer it over having to travel to a big city and having to pay a fortune. I paid $5.90 for the medical, although I was lucky to find that doctors clinic.
I felt quezy after the first pill but nothing too bad, the second once it kicked in I started to be sick, then started to get pain so I laid on the bed with a heat bag across my tummy (mil reheated every 30mins) which eased the pain, and watched a movie while drifting in and out of sleep. I laid there for about 4 hours until I felt the need to go to the toilet, I'm lucky the beds so close to the ensuite as omg as soon as sat down the GUSH was insane but I felt slot better after that, just the occasional cramp and I was exhausted.
Please make sure you have someone with you as you may not be able to do things yourself.
I have had multiple miscarriages at various stages (4, 6, 8, 12 and 17 weeks) which I imagine to be similar to a medical termination. The pain and bleeding was unbelievable, one miscarriage I ended up at emergency two nights in a row because I was filling a pad every 5 minutes and passing HUGE clots (palm size)
The times I've had a dnc, or elected termination, there was no physical pain, and very little bleeding afterwards.
Emotionally, one is no easier than the other. Your hormones will go crazy either way.
Thinking of you, choosing to terminate for whatever reason is extremely difficult. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make
Ive had one recently. Im going to stick to the facts for you.
You will be given some pills in the office, these dont effect you at all just stop the production of pregnancy hormones. The next day you take the other pills at a certain time. Within 4 hours you will start to cramp and bleed. The big bleeding happens within the first 12 hours. After that you should feel a little better and mostly just like a heavy period.
I soaked through quite a few pads quickly within the first 12 hours. I was in a considerable amount of pain however panadine forte helped a lot. I passed a few large clots as I was on the toilet a couple of times. At one point I felt as though I had all my insides falling out. I worried that I was bleeding too much but apparently it was very normal. If you've ever had a child before you'll know what the bleeding is like after birth, thats what I felt like. I bleed like a regular period after that for about 10 days. I had a follow up appointment this week and was told i still have some 'product' and need to take a few more pills apparently this is also very normal. Im feeling fine.
Its very emotional and its a difficult thing to go through but I will be over before you know it. Goodluck x
I had a surgical not to long ago, to have my tubes tied again at the same time. Our circumstances a little different. I have 6 grown children 4 young adults and two teens. I had rings placed on my tubes in 2002, and it come as a complete shock to us all. You have to be 100% sure that its what you want. Both myself and my husband struggled through out and still now sometimes dwell on the what ifs. We are both 39 and are almost done raising our kids so we do know that it was the right choice, but it doesnt make it any easier.
Please think long and hard about it. If there's any doubts it's probably best if you think more about adopting. I had an abortion and seriously I regret it all the time. I was too young and scared to think about how it would effect me emotionally and I had no one to say no to the abortion only yes. Seeing these posts just makes it harder because I don't want anyone else to go through the same.