I don't really know how to begin this question
I have a child who is 5
Her bio father was long gone before I have birth to her and has stayed away ever since.
When my daughter was almost 2 I began a relationship with let's call him "xx"
"Xx" stepped in and helped me raise her to every extent, and she saw him as her father ( I have explained the truth and she is fully aware he's not her biological dad but is a dad who chose to love her).
Ok, so jump ahead, we split up and he is currently in a new relationship, and in the beginning used to still see her and take her places. Our communication is completly broken down now and we don't speak, it's been 3 months since he has spoke to her on the phone or seen her.
I completely understand this man is in no way responsible
For her as he isn't her biological dad but he said in the beginning he would always be there for her.
My child is missing him dearly, she constantly speaks of him and asks me when she's going to see him next.
What do I do?
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i think you should seek professional advice so you can get a long term strategy to explain to her.
For now I'd just say he is too busy at the moment.
Tough one.
I'm a step mother and honestly I go into it with the knowledge that if something were to happen (split up, death etc) I probably won't see my step kids. It's happened previously. I still miss them.
My kids don't have contact with their previous step dad but do with previous step mothers. It really depends what they want.
He may have said he would always be there for her. I'm assuming he said he'd always be there for you too. You can't make him.
It becomes complicated because he's in a relationship with someone else. Seeing your daughter will involve seeing you. The new partner might find it weird since she's not his biological daughter.
Besides all that what happens when you meet someone else?
I don't have any answers. Just some things to consider.