just needed to vent. Please no harsh comments only words of wisdom.
We are very open with our kids regarding our bodies, body parts and no touch areas. We talk all the time about people touching in our personal spaces. This is so they feel comfortable in telling us when something happens and to have them know it's not right for others to touch.
My son clearly knows this, he is 7. He knows this as one of his friends kept grabbing his Penis in prep and grade one and he knows how he felt when his friend was doing this,m. So we spoke with teachers regarding it and spoke to him about how that's not ok, to tell the teachers, tell him to stop, walk away and find new friends. He did this, the friend doesn't have many friends anymore (I wonder why) any way.
Today my son has disappointed me, has made me so cranky and upset. I know he is only 7. Well aware that he is still at the stage they do things to fit in. But one of his friends were over and I was out of the lounge room. I walk back in and the two boys run put my phone down and sit down, and my daughter miss 4 tells me that they took a photo of her vagina. VAGINA ???
I asked who and she said her brother. His friend said her brother did all of it. Meaning held her undies down and took photo.
This surprised me as my son has never done anything like this, he doesn't see vaginas or penis's or boobs as a funny matter. It's just a body part that no one is to touch. He is very gentle, caring, helpful and respectful boy, everyone he meets always comments how well he behaves or looks after his brother and sister.
But this made my heart sink, I know he's only 7 but this just makes me think of how his makes could say hold your sister and he will as he likes to fit in. ??? that he put his friend before his little sister.
Hubby and I are going to sit down and talk to him about it.
Sorry this is long. I just needed to get this of my chest. I just can not think my son would do that.
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This is kids being kids. They make mistakes. They have moments of weakness, they do things that they know they shouldn't do. There brains are still growing, not fully formed.
Kids know they shouldnt swim with out mum and dad, or be in the pool area, but every year a child drowns because they disobeyed the rule.
Kids know they aren't to eat lollies before dinner but sometimes will sneak some anyway. I was the teen, who shoplifted due to peer pressure.
Yes what he did was wrong, and horrible but his brain is still learning and as kids age what there peers think of them becomes far more important than what family thinks.
You nee to get professional advice hun, I'm not sure if it's just curiosity with kids and with today's technology "hey mums phones there let's take a pic" or something serious, you need to let this other mum know too. Don't be hard on yourself, you've done the right thing bring the kids up to know the right names for body parts and about good and bad touching etc, be calm tomorrow maybe speak to the kids seperatly first so your girl is comfortable
The first reply comment on Facebook I seen annoys me!
And so I needed to reply anonymously
You are not over sexualising things
Please don't let anyone tell you you are teaching you children this to young!
Because I did teach my children I found out my daughter (under 4yo) was being interfeared with u my own father
Because she told me "grandpa play with my fanny tomorrow?"
I have now removed her from a very damaging position and have protected my girl
So THANKYOU for being the type of parents who teaches them xo
But I think definitely sitting down and talking to him is your husbands and your best approach and maybe just tell him if you ever hear if anything like this again you'll have to let a police officer explain it to him next time better or something
Hopefully try scare him out of peer pressure and things like that and start thinking about what his doing before he does it x