Apologies for such a long rant. So where to start OMG. Needing help I'm at my wits ends and I don't know what to do anymore. I have five children,four of which have been quite normal children if there is such a thing. Well welcome in number 5 the youngest of all and there has bee. Major dramas. She is now almost nine and she is Themistocles beautiful ki d hearted sweetest most polite little girl when she wants to be but for the past 6 years I have been dealing with major outbursts. She lashes out at everyone is so angry all of the time. Anything can set her off and she doesn't seem to be able to get her point across with out telling , even just a General conversation. She is constantly slaming things, Smashing things hitting pinching, punching, kicking. My 10 yr old cops it constantly and she has done nothing to deserve it. It's gotten to the point that I can not deal with her and now feel that my recent reactions to her behavior are not helping. I try not to get mad with her but after dealing with it for so long on my own I don't know how to cope. I've seen doctors and psychologists councellors and no one will refer us to a pediatrician as they feel it's not necessary. As of late she has been saying she wants to kill her self and wished she was dead. It breaks my heart to hear these and to think that she feels this way. She is 9 she should not feel like this. I feeling I'm failing as a parent and don't know what to do. As I sit here and write this I can barely see my screen. Please any one have you been in a similar situation if so any advice would be appreciated. I want my relationship back with my little girl before it gets out of hand.
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You know this is not right, obviously. Poor things, you've done amazingly to get to here.
She needs assessment, you both need support. She needs to see a paediatrician and a psychologist. Go back, get a second, third, fourth and so on opinion until someone listens. I wish you both all the best. You've got this xxx
Thanks I have tried, no one listens. Her psychologist done some testing but can not Confirm anything until she has seen a paediatrician. The pediatrician says there is no need for him to see her. It is so frustrating I just feel like I'm going in circles and no one is willing to help. I am a single mum with next to no support and I'm at breaking point. I just don't understand why people are not taking our situation seriously. I just want my little girl to get the help she needs
I would take her back to the doctors and tell them how she feels and thinks about suicide. I took my daughter to a children's councillor but took her back to doctors after she started self harming at 11. We got a referral to a phycastrist and she seen her for 2 years. My daughter struggled with her emotions and couldn't identify her feelings and suffered severe anxiety. She is now 14 and has come forward in leaps and bounds. I know it's really hard for you, and you want to fall apart. I was told by phycatrist to try not to react unless they needed medical attention very hard I know! keep telling her how much she is loved and keep pushing to get the help she needs. Maybe another doctor that specialises in children's mental health? Best of luck and hugs for you xx