I have had 5 pregnancies but only have 2 on earth ....i have been with my partner for 7 years we have 2 children together but only 1 is biologicaly his .(he counts and treats them the same) well our youngest is 11 months old and we have run into a problem ....he wants to have another child !! (In a few years) and i do not want another one ...AT ALL... like for me 2 is the perfect amount...he comes from a family of 3 and i come from a family of 5 he is the middle child and i am the youngest in my fam ...how do we work this out? I think i would have another one because his happiness means alot to me and when he is happy it brings me joy and those feel good vibes...but then what about making myself happy? I could handle another child i just don't want to "start all over....again !! The thought makes me cringe.. note that there is a 6.5 year gap between our children now !
So what todo ? Give him another child to fulfill his happiness OR say no to another child to fulfill MY own happiness? #HELP
To have another baby ??
To have another baby ??
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Why do you need to decide now? You might feel very differently in a few years and so may he?
Because he wants to start trying now.
That's not a few years then. Might want to edit that bit!
I don't think you should have one if your not wanting one. It's a huge decision you need to talk to your partner about how u feel.
I think the best option is to tell him your not ready that you need time to decide if this is right. If he wants this baby as bad as he says he does, waiting is his only option. 11 months is young. Most mums don't want to think about it until 2 years old when they are getting a decent nights sleep. When your baby feels like he is growing up, you may decide to have another one and that will be when your both ready. Or you and your hubby can enjoy your freedom together and focus on another dream. You cant have a baby to make your partner happy, its a big commitment that needs to be agreed upon by both parents.