My Ex isn't paying any child support and providing NO financial support for our child. Our child lives with me full time and I am struggling financially. I've asked my Ex to help pay for ongoing medical costs for our child but to this day has not paid anything. Soon I will have education expenses for the new school year with new uniforms and school supplies. I recently received a bill from the school showing that my Ex didn't pay their half of the school fees from 2015 and for this year.
Do I approach the Ex's mum and see if she can talk to my Ex about providing some financial support for our child? Do I ask my Ex again for money?
Although I'm pretty sure if I ask either of them, I will most certainly be getting abusive emails back from my Ex, even though I am only asking for financial assistance for our child.
Or do I keep the peace with my Ex (I'm over all the turmoil and heartache), keep struggling financially where eventually I will have to start depending on my family for financial assistance?
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There is no point asking. He isn't going to pay. I'm sorry, but you are just going to be beating your head against a brick wall.
If he isn't going to pay child support then he isn't going to give you money on the side. BTW if he does pay child support then legally he is required to pay nothing else.
I eventually received child support in the form of my exes tax returns which the tax department took and passed on to CSA.
If you have the child in your full custody it's time to make things so you can afford those expenses yourself. Wether that means moving to somewhere cheaper, downgrading cars, working more hours etc. it's not fair, but it's the way it is. If that means applying for help from Anglicare (they provide assistance for school expenses for those on low incomes etc).
Call child support
I would be letting it go , call child support and try to get something that way but otherwise let it go . If your really struggling there are financial advisers out there that can help you create a budget , downgrade things like your rent if you can (move to a more affordable area , your car if you've got a loan try sell and get a cheaper loan , go to public school where fees and uniforms are much
More affordable ! It may seem unfair to do so but to chase $ from ur ex is probably going to cause more strain and stress on any relationship he might have for your child and mean your communication with him is just stressful ...
If you are in the Townsville (North Queensland) area got on too the Joyful Foundation (they have a FB page). They helped me out last year