I'm sitting here crying hoping I have made the right decision. I have just landed a great new job however it is fulltime. I will now get school holidays off. I just feel so
Guilty though. I feel like less of a mum. This new job means I won't be able to drop off or pick up my first born from kinder, I won't be able to stay for parent duties. I just feel so guilty that I'm not there for her and she will love me less for this.
Working fulltime
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No your daughter will not love you less!
Kids don't measure there feelings by those things you describe. Those things are just your perception of what mums do. But those things don't make a mum. You can do all of those things you are sad about and still be a terrible mum. Trust me I've met them!!
Your daughter is not going to love you less and you are so very lucky to get school holidays.
Oh love please dont feel guilty. Kids love unconditionally (thankgod). Think of the positives. You are getting school holidays off which is AMAZING. You can have sooo much quality time which is far more important the quantity. You are setting an awesome example for your daughter by working hard. Take school holiday time to create memories for yourself and for her and thats what she will cherish most when an adult.
Kids don't love their dads any less for working so why would it be any different for mums?
Congratulations on your new job. You'll be fine and your child will not love you any less for working x
Arrange to do the first day drop off and pick up if you can. This is a big day and I've allowed staff to leave and come back after the drop off just so they had that first day with their little ones. I'm sure many places will be flexible if possible.
She will not love you less. You are setting an excellent example for your kids! I had 3 years off work when my first child was born which was great but I knew being a stay at home mum wasnt what I wanted nor could we afford for me to be at home forever unfortunately. I got a full time job and all of a sudden my son was in day care most days all day. It was a change but I knew it was the right thing to do. He is now in grade 1 and has to go to before school care most mornings at 7am. Most of the time he is the first one at school. Yes sometimes I feel guilty but you have to do what you have to do. And he loves before school care lucky for me. He spends school holidays at my mums house. I dont get to attend school exursions or help out at the classroom but I do get to provide him with everything he needs and our nights together are special. Im now expecting our second child and have just started maternity leave. I will be back to work in April and my 4 month old baby will be at day care most days. I believe 100% I am doing the best I can for my kids in making sure they have the best life possible. Good luck mumma just wanted you to realise there are so many of us in the same position. And how cool is it that you get school holidays off!! Look forward to them. Good on you for landing a great job and providing for your kids.