I receive child support for my two teenage boys ... but he is refusing to pay any extras for school fees and expenses, sports etc. do you think that is fair ? how do I get him to understand that he should be paying extra? he earns a very good income - over $100,000 according to last child support claim.
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Why should he be paying extra? If he's earning over $100000 then the child support he would be paying would already be a large amount! I'm sure when the kids are in his care he wants to be able to afford to do things with them plus he needs to support himself too and why should he work hard to have to hand over a large amount of it?
Dad is supposed to pays for expenses while in his care. Eg swimming lessons on his days, clothes at his house, entertainment at his house etc.
legally he doesn't need to do more than pay during his 'time' but that isn't the same as what is morally right.
Also you need to make sure he has agreed to things, like agrees that the kids should play sport and that he is prepared to pay. You can't just enrol them and then expect him to pay.
I just get on with it for the most part. Big expenses i just let him know its an update on his kids.
Ie. X starts gymnastics on friday afternoons. $100 joinup. $120 a term $50 for uniform
Hi, i was thinking this year santa will give the kids something for the backyard/scooters they will use them. Let me know if you want to go in.
Getting X ready for school. Uniforms will be a lot, and i need to pay $100 for books and $50 resources.
I guess if he didnt respond i might not do it. I dont do it all the time just the big expenses. And i dont expect or hate if he doesnt give anything, its just easier.
He doesn't have to pay extra. The amount calculated by CSA is the amount he's expected to pay.
He only have to pay what Child Support says he has to pay. They actually don't have to pay for anything extra unless it had already been put into a child support plan. IE if he decided that your children must go to a private school and you also wanted this that's when the fees get split in 2. If he decides he wants the kids to do a certain sport that's when he is the one who pays. But if it's you who is allowing that to happen or wanting that to happen then you cannot expect him to chip in more. If he's already paying a reasonable amount of child support. If he's on 100k a year then he's likely paying a fair bit then he really shouldn't have to pay any more. My kids dad pays $300.00 a fortnight for 3 kids when he's earning money. Currently I am not receiving anything as he doesn't have a job. I do not ask him for anything extra even though one play 2 sports and another plays 1. One is too young for sport as of yet. Once she starts playing it will also be me who covers the cost. Once he gets a decent Payne job and keeps it, I expect it be paid more from child support. Even when I receive $300.00 a fortnight I still manage to put a certain amount into each of their bank accounts so they have a saving account once they're old enough to need a car etc
My ex earns over 100k his assessment is heaps.....but he never pays. If this doesnt cover it with what you are contibuting for your kids maybe extra cirrucular stuff needs to be scaled back. He doesnt legally need to pay you anymore. From.what i believe if he choses to pay for some of the stuff you are asking he can actually send the receipts in to csa and get the amount he usually pays reduced by this amount.
I'm so sorry that you are getting so horribly judged ? totally not what I thought imperfect mum was about!
Me too. It's half his kid. He would be paying half if you were still a couple.
Tell your kids to alternate your details for extra curricula activities, if he doesn't want to pay he can tell them himself.
Me too. It's half his kid. He would be paying half if you were still a couple.
Tell your kids to alternate your details for extra curricula activities, if he doesn't want to pay he can tell them himself.
Sorry your getting judged. Its a fair question!
Now I see what your saying because if you still lived together, he'd be paying for this stuff anyway and teenage boys are EXPENSIVE!!
However legally he doesn't have to pay the extras and he knows that so your probably waisting you breath trying to get him to.
From his point of view hes probably thinking the CS assessment is big enough and should cover half of the cost of those things.
Does he have other children, a mortgage that he has to be able to provide for too? Because you kind of have to keep that in account too, that he has to be able to pay his bills and living expenses and have money to do things with the boys on his days too.
But on your side, if your really struggling to pay for these extras on your own, with the child support you get maybe suggest if its a sport the boys do during his days with them, its his responsibility to pay for that sport.
I guess you could list the cost of all the extras, the weekly food bill, the clothes bill and the other expenses relating to the boys and show him the figure of what it really costs to raise teenage boys and see if the child support covers 50% of that. Maybe he'll will help out then. But if it does cover it, maybe let it go.