I have a question regarding divorce and its effects on the extended family. I am a little angry at present so if this comes across as me being a nasty bitch I'm sorry. I do not intend it that way, emotions really do wreck havoc. Also, Italy seem selfish but I just need to ask this from
My perspective to help me get through this so as to helps family. So please no negatives or judgemental stuff.
Anyway, obviously there is divorce happening in my extended family. My children are cut off from their cousins and we can't contact one side of the former couple for various reasons. It appears that in her hatred of her husband the mum of the cousins is cutting off from anything and everything to do with hlm, including us. I get that she's hurt and that he's hurt but why the hell should we be punished for their stupid choices? Can someone please tell me why the "adults" can't seem to pull their heads in but insist on being selfish and nasty and one in particular seems to want to really drive it home to us despite it having nothing to do with us as we (my husband and I) aren't in this relationship.!!! The whole things is nasty, is it really necessary? Can't adults be mature? It's not like she can change who the father is, we haven't done anything wrong!!!!
He's just as bad at times too!! Sick of being piggy in the middle, and we have stepped right back and out of it.
Does divorce need to be bitchy and mean?
Does divorce need to be bitchy and mean?
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I agree adults need to pull their head in and act like adults not childish kids in the playground. Put the kids first and stop using them against each other.
It doesn't have to be and isn't always that way. When my brother split with the mother of his child (we got along well before they broke up) I made a point of keeping that friendship going to make life easier on all and I wanted to be able to see my nephew whenever I could. My husband keep things very polite and friendly with his ex wives family for the sake of his daughter. I have a family member that has her ex husband and his family stay often at her place for th sake of the kids (even though his an ass and doesn't deserve her help, she does it for the kids)
Maybe she is not doing it to be bitchy.
She might not be a the stage where she can emotionally cope being around you and your family for the hurt and pain it might cause her and her children.
Can't your brother bring the children around to see you and your children.
Yes the children should come first, but if being around your family isn't good for their mother maybe it's not good for them to see her around you? Maybe your brother has asked her not to contact you?
I'm not trying to be nasty our unhelpful. Just trying to give you a different perspective.
It seems she is lying about our whole family. Unfortunately the father is not allowed to be near the children due to orders placed by the mother.
On face book she is acting like life is great and people
Have come to me asking what her problem is as they thought he was going through a really traumatic time. Some have refused to be friends a with her because she is one thing to their face, another in front of her family, another on Facebook.
But I have real proff that she is trying to discredit our side of the family by outright lying about who we are. It's so hurtful, we didn't do anything.