Help..
Recently just got married to my soul mate, he is everything to me. But since we got married all I have craved is another baby.. I have a 9y/o to a different guy, was 18 when I had her. I have finally picked my career which is being a chef and recently started a new job. Am lost as what to do, start a family (BTW the hubby wants to wait til next year to discuss this ?) or just focus on my marriage, family and career? Am I being selfish for wanting this? It could be financially hard due to some debt we have and with both of us starting new jobs.
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Wait until next year. Sounds like the timing isn't great and next year is not that far off!
Get settled at work, get that debt paid down. You've only recently gotten married so take some time to let things settle.
If you'd said you were 40 then I'd get that there was a time issue. But you could only be around 29. Waiting a year won't hurt at all.
If he is not ready it's not fair to push him into a baby straight away.
Are you doing an apprenticeship? The hours will be long being a chef and it's hard on the kids. I would wait until I was qualified before trying for a baby and enjoy being a newly wed personally. I had to give up my chefs apprenticeship because it was to much on the kids and it shattered me having to give up my dream career.