6 year old driving me insane!!
Hi ladies I need some advice I am at my wits end with my six year old dd she is constantly naughty rude, disrespectful, won't listen even punishment doesn't work, time outs, smacks loss of privileges I have tried it all I always end up screaming like a banshee and just feel like I'm totally failing I am sure my neighbours think I'm insane, I hate yelling and always feel awful afterwards and I know myself that it's not having a positive impact on her which again leaves me feeling so guilty I hate that I turn into a crazy person all the time! Her behaviour is making me not want to spend time with her I literally feel like running away (I would never!) but I just don't know what to do I don't know how to climb out of this hole, I know she is only six but I just don't know how to get through to her, I have yelled at her and told her she is a horrible naughty child, and I know that's wrong Inc. So many ways as it's impact g her self esteem, I'm really hating myself I swear and yell and am just as horrible myself I know I shouldn't call her names but I just become so frustrated, not that that's any excuse for my behaviour, please help what do I do am I the only one? I love her so much I don't want to feel like this and I don't want to be an awful mum what do I do??
Thank you
Feeling insane!! Please help
Feeling insane!! Please help
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Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Kids
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Catch her being good and praise the shit out of her for it. Even if that good thing is watching TV. Do it. I bet you start to find a bunch of things she does. It will make her feel better and it will make you feel better.
Let the little stuff slide. If you ask her to do something but she rolls her eyes or back chats but she does it anyway, ignore the attitude. She's doing it for a reaction and you are giving her one. She knows she is getting under your skin.
Yes it's ok to punish her, but make it functional. Eg drawing on the walls in this house = cleaning walls. Functional punishments teach life lessons. Throwing a toy = having toys removed for a period of time. Make the punishment make sense.
If she throws a fit because she doesn't like something, so what?? Put some ear phones in and let her scream the house down. Screaming back will just make it worse. Ignore! There is not a parent in the country whose little angel hasnt done the same thing.