I just want to cry!!! Sorry for the rant but I don't want to stress my family out until I know what's going on and I don't really have anyone to talk to except my husband. Second pregnancy and 34 weeks. Have been having growth scans since 28 weeks. Latest one today shows the abdomen is 4-6 weeks behind everything else (everything had been measuring between 2-4 weeks behind but this is now a huge difference as everything else has caught up to about 33-34 weeks). So in the last 6 weeks she has dropped from the 15th percentile down to the 8th percentile. I had growth issues with my first born which resulted in a lot of stress and heartache waiting and wondering before the doctors finally decided he was better off on the outside as my placenta was failing. I feel like they are again not taking it serious enough and after every scan I am left with half information (I totally understand the sonographer cannot disclose much info), but then it's days before the doctors see me again. And each appointment they advise they are concerned about the issues, but then just book me for another scan 2 weeks later. So I'm left freaking out for another two weeks until each scan. I just really want to know what the heck is going on with this baby and if she is going to be ok, but I feel like they aren't telling me everything. Has anyone had these issues and how did you tackle feeling left in the dark and not being fully informed? I'm really finding it hard to stay positive and have not been able to enjoy this pregnancy at all. I just really feel helpless. Has anyone else been through this that could offer me some advice please?
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I've not been through anything like you have, sweetheart, and I'm so sorry you're suffering the way you are. The only thing I can really suggest is that you make an appointment with your doctor asap and demand information. Sometimes you have to go a little bonkers to get their attention. Tell them how it's affecting you mentally and emotionally, that it's ruining your sleep, you're worried about depression and anxiety. Tell them whatever you need to tell them to make them realise you need more than what they're giving you.
I wish you the very best of luck and hope everything works out just fine xox
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I may just go postal on them if they don't give me answers on Monday!! I really appreciate your kind words and advice xx
Yes I went through nearly the exact same thing with my 2nd pregnancy. I was sent for multiple growth ultrasounds all of which said my bub was too small for her gestational age. My midwives didn't seem overly concerned for a while because they also kept putting me on a machine (forget what it's called) to monitor bub's heartbeat and movement and all was still fine there. Have they out you on that machine yet? At 38 weeks I went for yet another growth scan to be told by the sonographer to go to the hospital immediately. Don't go home and pack a bag...just go to the hospital right now. Of course that was not at all the most calm moment of my life. I went to hospital and they said that they wanted to induce me first thing the next morning because it appeared that the placenta had died and bub wasn't getting much/anything to eat. I got induced and bub was 2.4Kgs and the placenta was indeed mostly dead. I'm so very glad that I agreed to be induced and that bub is happy and healthy. She's now 17months, still well below the average in terms of weight for her age but she is completely fine. I don't think the drs or midwives would let this slide if there was a serious risk but if you're not convinced that they're paying attention to you then tell them you want regular monitoring of heartbeat and movement and you want to talk about the possibility of induction. If possible try and hold out with induction until atleast 37 weeks...
I am original poster, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm so sorry you went through that, it's exactly what I am frightened of. I have been put on the monitors twice as I had the beginnings of preterm labour (29 & 31 weeks) but they were able to stop it thankfully. I am having an elective c-section this time as my first I was induced resulting in emergency c-section, and now with these growth issues I have been advised it's for the best. Did the doctors tell you why your placenta had died? Should I demand to wait until 37 weeks if they tell me Monday they'd like to go early, do you think that would benefit bub more staying inside that little bit longer? I know I need to discuss with my doctor but I just would like some real advice from someone who has been in this situation. Is it worth seeking a second opinion do you think or should I just go with what the doctors say. Did your little one have to spend any time in special care or were you allowed to hold her immediately? Sorry for all the questions, I just really need some reassurance from another mother. And as I said in my original post, I haven't told family (apart from my hubby) as I didn't want to worry anyone until we knew what was going on. So thank you for taking the time to be my confidant. You have no idea how much I appreciate it.
Big hugs for you mum - Your question will be posted first thing tomorrow morning and I hope some of the mums here are able to relate and support xKelly
this happened to me with my first.it started when i went for my 12 week scan to be told im only 9 1/2 weeks. i knew my dates so i knew this was wrong. i got behind on every scan by 38 weeks i was only 27 1/2 weeks.
everyone is different. with me i had ever little water and she was just small and still is at 7years.
if you can feel baby move and you feel well this is a good sign. and DONT stress its not good for you or the baby.and is the baby growing in size at the scan? if so also a good sign.
you need to talk you midwife.