Self Help

I've just come out of the other side of a 12-year marriage. This person was a sociopath that manipulated, lied and cheated with absolutely no empathy whatsoever. I'm completely shattered but I'm determined to regain myself again. I need to learn to love myself, I need to be strong, I need to fix my self-esteem. the hurt has been so strong that emotionally I stopped feeling to help me deal with the pain but now I'm left feeling like an empty shell. Can someone please recommend some really good books, websites, audio books that teach self-love and other strategies that can help me regain the person I know is inside somewhere. Thanks