Hey ims.
I'm really sad. For a number of reasons. Firstly I have no friends. My husband has a couple of closer friends, but they're not mine. Like their close, but I want a close girl friend that comes over to see me or rings me. I see other people on Facebook with those kinds of relationships and I just can't create that anymore.
I studied a course this year In hopes to find friends and a community. Didn't quite happen :(, what did come out of it was that I developed and then diagnosed with general anxiety and depression. I saw a phsycologist for 10 sessions.. Wish I could've afforded more, I miss talking to him.
I have 2 little ones and they're amazing, just sayin!
I still don't know what I want to do long term. Was hoping I'd know after the course. I was a teacher but don't like it.
My husband hAd a great job. He held it for a bit over a yeAr. Then out of the blue, completely unexpected, they sacked him, yesterday in fact. The people he worked with were so nice, at least I thought they were and I'm so incredibly sad for my husband. But I'm also sad because some days id go there and build up the courage to talk to them, I went to the Christmas party last year, over night thing and it was amazing. My first night away from the kids. Got to drink alcohol, talk to other adults, play games, enjoy copious amounts of food. They were all so nice. And I'm sad because those memories are tainted.
I'm sad because I feel like everyone my husband works for just hurts him in the end. He's been sacked severAl times (not because of him) he's been sued (unfairly and completely wrong and I'm not being biased) had to claim bankruptcy because of it. So we've had our fair share of financial struggles. I know we can get through this one. I just wish I had at least one friend to talk too, something that I/ we were part of that didn't turn nasty, money. You get the gist. Feel like everything in this current time is turning dark and I don't want to let it.
Sad times
Sad times
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I'm so sorry for your troubles. I relate to the friends woes, I really do. I've got limited advice to offer but here's what I do have; go back to your GP and tell them you need another mental health plan to see the psychologist; if you can't due to the yearly limit being exceeded, then ask if they could put it into your eldest child's name so you can still claim it that way? Tricky but it might be a way around it. Also, see what local playgroups, toy libraries, play gyms etc somewhere you can take the kids but you could volunteer your time and start building up a new circle of faces with a common interest, being the kids! Good luck mumma. xx
I keep coming back to this post. I just wasn't sure what to write, I just have so much empathy towards you and can see a lot of myself within your post. It's so difficult being wives and mothers as we seem to be the ones to take on the burden of the families problems. When it seems to just be one thing after another it is very difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and kids though. Keep a hold of that!
I'm not sure about your mental health and starting with your gp would be the best option. I also found for myself that keeping a journal, writing everything down about what was happening and how I was feeling, was incredibly helpful and helped me sort through my emotions and in learning to recognise what my triggers were.
If you would like someone to talk to more please feel free to reply to this comment and i'll let you know my details. I'm a mum of 1 (soon to be 2!) and know the feeling of isolation x