My partner left in April, in hindsight I know we were having problems but at the time I was completely blindsided. He immediately started a new relationship with a much younger girl and moved in with her 6 weeks ago. I'm struggling to figure out what's best in regards to our young kids spending time at the house - I don't think it's appropriate they've even met her at this stage. What's the concensus on kids meeting new partners?
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It's not what I would do, having them meet, but if he does introduce them and she is at the house there is nothing you can do about it unfortunately :(
Let it go, be the stable and responsible parent and don't worry about what happens at his house. Been there, done that, not worth worrying about.
My ex has done this to me twice already. Got a girlfriend and moved in with her and expected them to meet her and stay there. He gave me 3 months to get used to the idea. They broke up 6 months later. Six months later he got another girlfriend wanted them to meet her and stay at her place within 2 weeks a month later they broke up. Took me 5 months to introduce my kids to my partner, 18 months later we still aren't living together and have around 12 months until we are living together. We're not rushing it. My ex doesn't get how important it is to get to know another person before you move forward. There is however nothing you can do to make his decision for him, you are not together. You just need to pick up the pieces for your kids when it all goes wrong and if it all goes right then no harm done.
I'd let it go. He's the kids parent too and gets to make the decisions while they're in his care,
My ex has lived with 4 so far and we've been separated 9 years. The kids are resilient and have coped well. I met all of them and except the last one and I'm still friends with them.
You just look like the jealous ex if you try to fight it so truly I wouldn't bother.
Sounds like my ex. Nine years since we split, has had three relationships of at least two years before they split. The nicest of the ones I've met only lasted about three months and she's the only one that didn't have kids of her own. The current partner has been there for just over two years and had a kid with him. She has believed every word he has said about me (blames me for everything) and won't accept that there is another side to the stories she's been told. For five or six months before the current partner, there was a new woman introduced to my two boys every month along with her child.
I'm currently single but if and when I meet someone, I will be getting to know him first and seeing where the relationship is likely to go before I will consider introducing my boys, and if the man in question can't accept that then he's not the man for me.