Live in a tiny apartment and my partners brother is living with us. Its usually my partner, my 3 year old and myself, pregnant with second baby but my brother in law is here and has no where else to go apparently. I am losing patience and need to have my space and privacy back. Please help me bring it up in a way that wont cause conflict.. How do i say i am fed up and need things to go back to normal. This brother is simply waiting for me to find a bigger house which is what i need before the baby comes, so he can live in this small apartment by himself but I am getting nowhere with finding a house and I feel like im at breaking point. What do i do??
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Call a family meeting. Be honest. Say you have been looking for bigger places and have been applying but you haven't been getting anything and can't see that you will get something.
You all need a new plan as living together once the new baby arrives isn't going to work.
Tell him that finding a room in a share house or someone to put up one person is much easier than finding a place for a family of 4.
There are plenty of rooms to rent, everywhere!
PS I hope he wasn't thinking the lease would stay in your name when you moved, as that is a plan for a disaster for you and your family.
I ended up letting the hormones get to me which caused a huge argument between my partner and me. I ended up kicking him and his brother out and now my son and I are alone in this apartment and they are at a hotel. Have i screwed it all up?
Even if what you did was wrong, this should be the poi nt where the brother realises its time to go, and hubby realises you need what you need and youre pregnant and should not be this stressed.
I say apologise for making a big argument, but in a calm way stick to what you need to change to move forward.