Baby number 4 with an age gap.
Hi IM.
I am 37. Life is great. Both my husband and I are both employed, and we have 3 health happy school aged children. ( 7, 10, 11 yrs).
My husband really wants another baby, hoping for a boy but would be happy for another girl too. ( we have 2 girls 1 boy).
I know I am incredibly lucky to have a man that genuinely loves kids. He is clucky.. well he has always been happy to hold a baby. My husband thinks there is nothing more beautiful than a woman bonding with her baby. Any ways. He wants to have another. Like SUPER keen.
Me I dont really mind if it happens it happens... how ever I am worried what people might think. I suck at being pregnant., I vomit atleast 5 to 10 times a day for atleast 5 months then the last month...I get admitted to hospital. ( hubby says he will hold my hair and wipe my mouth). I am not worried about birth I seem to cope and have great quick natural births.
My concerns are being so freakin sick again.. I probably would have reduce work. Which means out budget would tighten. We will need to get a bigger house... which means bigger mortgage.
I worry about the age gap. This baby will be the very very last..I worrry what people will think .. ie are you crazy.
We have openly asked our kids how would they feel, 2 out of 3 are excited at the thought of a new baby. The youngest isnt sold on the idea.
We have had our ups and downs with money. Due to a business going belly up. We have worked so hard in the last 5 years to recover. We are on our feet again and comfortable. I just feel we are on track to finally move to our dream house in 12months time. I worried about a 4th baby wont allow that. Yes I have said my concerns to my husband. He thinks we always make thing happen together and it will be fine. I have no baby stuff. So would have to start again. I gave all my stuff away. Literally gave away.
My question is has any one else been in this situation? Have things worked out? Is there an age gap issue? Am I too old or just pushing my luck.
Thank you IM
Look forward to your response.
Xx
2 Replies
I just want to say who gives a flying f@ck what people think! Do what you both want to do, and what you think you can cope with.
If you want another baby and can afford another one then just do it. Heaps of people have kids with an age gap that big and they're fine. But if you don't want another then don't be forced into it .It's really just what BOTH you and your hubby want.