Hi everyone..
Unsure if rant or am just feeling sorry for myself and want to get it off my chest..
I'm a single mum and have been since day dot
Now, Im use to the stares from the mums with their kids and their husbands and the odd comment of, "How sad for that child to not have a dad" or if I dare look at my phone to see the time, "Single mums: Bunch of bludgers that cant stay off their phones" and Ive brushed it off cause eh. What ever.
But today.... I went in to the real estate to grab my license etc (forgot them when she was photocopying my I.D) and just by passing I asked if they had any contact with the owner at all.
This lady proceeded to humiliate me by discussing my income loudly, wondering how I even can feed my child, how my real estate (current) even thought it would be a good idea to rent to me seeing as shes so stunned I can afford that much.
Then cracks out a calculator to tell me that I should only be ALLOWED to rent 188$ a week rather than the $260 Im currently paying.
I proceeded to tell her I am a month ahead in my rent. Without help. I pay all my bills, my daughter is fed and taken care of, the car is fueled and taken car of etc etc
Which she then said, "Im just trying to keep it real. So you dont fet your hopes up. We should forget this application and find you a cheaper place"
I ended up walking out saying, "Do what you like..."
My pride is hurt. It was infront of my daughter. Infront of shop full of people and 4 staff members...
Im mad...
Am I over reacting???...
9 Replies
Nope you aren't!
I would complain to management! You sound like an awesome person and mum xx
Thank you so much. I will be as soon as they are open. Even though its a new day. I still feel the tang!
Put your complaint in writing! And follow it up! Make sure you are advised of the outcome and the sanctions placed on this lady. If nothing is done, take it further (if possible!). This is bullying and is just plain wrong! For a start, where is the privacy? She has breeched her privacy obligations before you even get into the discrimination side of it all!
What a fucking asshole. I wish you had of told her that non-judgmental people Prefer single parents because they know we value our home and stability for our kids so we pay our rent first and reliably, even though its more than most people have to pay, we also stay long term and are at home more so less chance of something bad happening to their property, its win win.
If you are like me, you will spend all night thinking about all the good come backs you could have said, but at the time you were so humiliated, nothing came out. Don't use another second of your energy thinking about that ignorant woman, she doesn't deserve your pain. Sending love you way xxxx
oh wow, that's really awful. I'm a single mum too and I know how tough it is. Chin up.
Not over reacting at all! As the others have said, I'd be complaining in writing. I was a single mum for a short time and had similar issues with the real estate. Becoming a single mum and taking on the lease in my name only, I was judged too. (You won't be able to afford the rent, you won't be able to keep the gardens maintained etc.) some people are just ignorant and also sexist sometimes too, when it comes to single mothers. I have high respect for single parents. Sounds like you are doing a great job. Brush off the comments and keep happy :)
I'm a single Mum with 4 children. I cop that shit all the time. People presume I had my children for the money, as you well know there's no money in having kids because they cost a LOT of money. I copped attitude in Emergency one night because my last name is different to my kids "why is your last name different? Well why didn't you get married? You should change your name". I've learned to pick my battles. Most of us don't set out to be single Mums, I know I certainly didn't. Put your complaint in writing to her boss, add proof that you always pay your rent on time and are well in advance and then say you will be taking your business elsewhere.
Ps. You're a good Mum xxx