Hi ladies, just needing to know what age would be suitable for a baby to start staying over nights with the ex? I've just had my baby and he is bottle fed and my ex is wanting overnights already... not sure how I feel about this, part of me says yes but the other part says no... Please no judging, I just want to know if anyone has let their young babies go over night with your ex, or if you waited until they were a toddler? and if you did, did it all work out ok?
Thankyou
suitable age for formula fed baby to stay overnights with ex
suitable age for formula fed baby to stay overnights with ex
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How old are we talking?
3 months
If you were together would you let him get up in the night to feed the baby so you could get a solid sleep? If your answer is yes it that, then baby is old enough for a sleep over. If you'd let your mum have the baby for the night (so you could go out with friends) then Dad can have the baby for the night. If you feel baby could cope with daycare for the day, then I feel dad could have baby overnight.
I personally would wait until 6 months. Your baby needs a proper attachment to you first and be past that SIDS age in my opinion. I'm not saying dads aren't as good as mums but the fact is that mums are more connected than dads. I would never let anyone have my 3 month old overnight without me. Even my husband lol unless it was an emergency
There are too many variables, depends on how often father sees baby, how experienced he is in caring for the baby, what your relationship is like with him i.e. if bubs isn't coping, would he let her/him cry all night or would he call you? Is bubs a settled baby with a good routine or a needy baby? There is no hard and fast rule, go with your gut, you know what's best.
Well if he provides a safe and stable environment then wouldn't the question be "at what age would be suitable for a baby to stay overnight at dad's house"
"Mums are more connected to their babys" is utter rubbish. Considering we've never been fathers we actually can't say for certain what their bonds are like??
It is going to be hard and I send strength to you but if he is a good person, then the baby has every right to bond with their father.
Mums ARE more connected than dads. There's a reason that bedsharing guidelines are for breastfeeding mothers to be the one sleeping with them. Because they are 100% connected more than anyone else.
Is there DV involved? Is he pathologically envious of the baby and your relationship? Is he trustworthy? It surprises me he would want you child this young which is kinda making me suspicious… but maybe that's just me being paranoid?