I do not know how to start this. I am not doing to well.
I busted my husband sexting a few days ago. I confronted him. He had no way to deny it so he told me it was all lies. The person he was sexting is a sexual victim. He pressured her and she, eventually, responded. He said he had a hard time keeping his hands off and wast interested in keeping his marriage vows. He said it was a pity she was so far away otherwise they could do something.
This is not the first time. He is mostly bedridden and does not get out much. He has told me he loves me and our kids. We have been married for 15 years and he does this!
I think I need to leave for a bit to get my head straight but I have no where to go, no savings, no family, no friends who can fit me and my kids for a while.
Has anyone got any suggestions of agencies that can help. This is not a DV situation, we are in no danger, my husband is an irresponsible idiot.
How to leave your hubby without somewhere to go
How to leave your hubby without somewhere to go
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Why not leave for good? Apply for separated under the one roof through Centrelink, save your money and leave! There is no way I'd be coming back once I left for a while. He doesn't deserve your support!
Poster here: Just to be clear he told me he lied to her. The other things he said are the things he texted to her.
The person he's sexting is a sexual victim and he pressured her into this. Explain it, make excuses for it and don't see it as a threat as much as you like, it's your life and your relationship but don't gloss over the fact that in doing this he has become her abuser. There is something wrong with him, very wrong, for him to believe this was a right or fair thing to do.
That is exactly what I feel he has done and yet will not take responsibility for it!! I just have no where to go to get away from it!
Poster here: Just to be clear he told me he lied to her. The other things he said are the things he texted to her.
If you haven't yet, start with Google - your area and shelters. Even if it's not DV against you the agencies you come across may have the inside information on relevant ones. If you assumed your friends can't fit you in and didn't ask, do so. You may be surprised what people will do in order to help you out. Best of luck.
He "pressured" a sexual abuse victim and if she lived closer, he'd of "tried" something?!?
He's "not dangerous" just "irresponsible idiot"?!?
Alarm bells.