Thoughts on sharing allergen free recipes with my step kids bio mum?
My youngest step daughter is allergic to both eggs and peanuts (has to carry an EPI pen) since finding out i have gone through the effort of baking all her favourite treats with egg and peanut free mixes, is there any way i could share these with her mum without causing trouble or should i keep them to myself?
Miss 4 loves an occasional brownie or cupcake as all kids do so i thought it might be a nice thing to do so her mum doesn't have to do all the experimenting that i did with the egg substitutes ?
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Do you have a healthy relationship with bio mum?
If so, go for it!
I would love for my kids step mum (if I were seperated from their father) to share recipes with me.
Maybe send a box of treats home with her and let bio mum taste them.
If she likes them, ask if she wants the recipe.
Or, send the recipe home with step daughter. Tell her if she likes the goodies, maybe bio mum will help her make more.
What a wonderful thing for you to do!
Hmmm this is a tough one, I guess it depends on your relationship with the child's mother. And weather she would see it as an insult or a help? Maybe make the child a cook book of her favourites, and let her take it back and forward too both houses, mum may have some great recipes to share too?
I cant help but think if this was as straightforward as this there's no need to post.
Does bio mum already give her cookies and brownies or are you trying to introduce this?
Do you get along with her? If so ask for recipes. Ask where she gets hers from. Eventually this may lead to recipe swapping.
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We have a rocky relationship. But i thought it might be something helpful for her, not as an insult or anything bad. I figured i found something that worked that both the kids liked so miss 4 doesn't feel left out when her older sister gets a treat.
She feels the same about treats as i do, they are only a sometimes food, a treat, not a regular thing.
I was actually going through the egg substitutes as Christmas is coming and i wanted to be prepared well in advance with some tasty allergen free food for miss4
Since the relationship is rocky id say no. maybe the topic will open communications dont push what you do on her, just let her know and she will appreciate the effort you go to of baking.
If it's rocky then definitely no. I know your intentions are good,my it I can almost guarantee it will be misinterpreted.
If you normally share things then yes, if you don't, then hell no.
Given that she is her daughter I'm positive she has many, many recipes that she uses to cook. I get that your intentions are good but I can definitely see how she could find it insulting, I personally wouldn't.
I would just leave it. If step daughter really likes it she may tell her mum and then mum could ask you. Otherwise maybe reaching out an olive branch and asking mum for one of her recipes then maybe suggesting a shared cookbook that can be added to.
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Both of my step kids asked if they could 'please please please!' take some brownies home and the recipe for their mummy to have a look at 'because we love them so much and want to show mummy!' so i let them take enough brownies for two each (for them and their mum) and gave them the recipe. It was received fairly well so hopefully there's no ticking Time bomb.