I'm a single mum to a beautiful 14 month old daughter. I'm soo exhausted.... she is teething, she has a cold and all she does is constantly scream, cry, she's grumpy, frustrated and always wants what she sees. I give her ibuprofen or panadol, her ears were checked and they are fine. It's soo hard trying to prepare and cook dinner, I just want to cry at times. I can't always prepare dinner when she naps.... Sometimes I need to clean or do washing... there's only soo much I can do during her nap time. I don't know what to do when she's screaming and clinging to my leg while I'm trying to cook. How else are we going to eat besides eating takeaway? I feel like an awful mother just ignoring her screams and crying.
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Invest in a slow cooker and cook in bulk!
I'm on my own with my son, and I seriously only cook every 3 nights or so. I cook enough, for multiple meals and reheat. Sometimes I need to steam some veggies as a side which takes all of a minute! I usually have a stockpile of frozen meals for bad days.
If you have a partner you could cook on weekends when he is home. Or put it on the night before so it's ready in the morning.
I find things like curries, pasta meals, casseroles all freeze really well.
If someone can take your daughter of your hands for an hour or two a week, let them!
I can even do a roast that takes me all of 10 minutes to prepare.
Yep done that too, but not keen on eating roast for a few days in a row
I don't bother freezing meals, I hate eating them. I prefer freshly cooked....
I usually cook enough for a couple of days, just don't like eating the same meal for a few days.
I don't have a partner, I'm single and I have no-one to take my daughter. My family are busy to take her.
I'm on my own too. Don't freeze then but we can't everything, sometimes we have to compromise.
If you need a day to yourself put your daughter in daycare
Crying won't hurt her, it's hard to listen too, very hard, but I learnt by bub number 4 that if they are crying then they are breathing and unfortunately as much as we would like to help our little ones,sometimes a child must learn to self soothe...for their own well being and for mums sanity.... U may not like freezing meals, but it's compromise and I'd choose compromise over insanity lol and sometimes grommet nights are called for, nothing wrong with cereal or noodles for dinner every now and then, slow cookers are awesome and u can Start it early before life gets too hectic...
My 14 month old is killing me lately too. I dont know why the screaming and crying and resisting sleep. Im not coping either.
You and me both.... I feel like my life is over and nothing gets better. I'm lonely, I crave affection. I hate how my life has turned out. Sometimes I wish I had an abortion....
They're worth it they said.... Sure they're worth the sleepless nights, the days you miss out on showering, the movies/shows you never get to watch, the 2 minute convo's to your friends with a screaming child in the background, the times of holding in vomit because your child will scream if you put her down, the snot on your clothes, being poo'd on because of they're teething.... the list goes on. To all those idiots that say it's all worth it are horrible liars and a*holes. 85% of the time, it sux being a parent.
I promise it gets better, she will be your best friend and these thoughts will be a distant memory. Those who say it is all worth it, are past the toddler/baby stage or have a few older kids and see the big picture. They start getting older and you start worrying they are growing up too soon, please believe me ❤️
I do believe you, it's just hard. I love my daughter soo much... I've been having an awful week and she has too
Yes youve described where im at too. I have an older one it does get better but the idea ofwaiting for the future doesnt help this feeling of hating my life, nit being able to do anything and struggling to get through minutes and hours.
I think youre the same as me, just in desperate need of a break. I know i am burnt out i need a break i just dont have an option to get one.
Welcome to motherhood.
You have a completely normal 14 month old daughter.
Let her cry. It won't hurt her.
When you need to get dinner ready, sit her in her high chair, put abc kids on, give her a little snack and a drink of water and let her be. She'll cope.
Or alternatively, do the same but in the kitchen.
There's worse to come, trust me. (Terrible threes are worse than twos).