I am just so disappointed in my husband at the moment, that I just don't know what to do or live like this anymore.
I work full time plus have 2 extra casual jobs (on the week of the census I had worked 61 hours and he worked 16). He can't keep a job to save his life. It's always their fault (he works in hospitality) 'I'm highly trained, they are useless I have to pick up after them' - that type of mentality so he either gets fired or he quits. He has no savings. Spends week to week, then has no money for bills etc hence why I have the extra jobs to pay for mortgage and bills.
He keeps telling me he should do more around the house because he works less ... Well he cleaned the house last week WOOHOO, I had to thank him for it and give
Him a massage coz he was cleaning all day .... Mind you the last time he cleaned was June long weekend (I remember coz he likes to post this type of stuff on fb - tell ppl type of person - so he can get likes and 'omg you are such a great husband')
Today just tops it off for me. He kept msging me asking if I am taking my daughter swimming (his step daughter) I said yes. Thinking that maybe he would have dinner prepared that's why he wants to know etc. of course not. His excuse was he didn't know what to cook for my daughter, I need to guide him to cook for her. In the year we have been married he has only made me a meal after work once. If I am at home, I get his meal prepared, then of course I'm left there to clean up while he is on his phone.
I'm sorry ladies. I just needed an outlet to vent. I work 6-7 days a week, look after the household including the garden ('allergies' but going outside to drum is ok) and get nothing for it. I'm just at my wits end. I've spoken to him about it many of times. Just doesn't happen coz he's sick or he was busy (doing his hobbies) to help me out. He shouldn't help me out he should just do it because it's a partnership.
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why are you married to him? It would be easier on your own
And this is why i am happily single...
But seriously, ask yourself: Has he ever been any different? Is his current behaviour out of character (in which case he may have something going on) or is this his normal?
If this is who he is, then ask yourself if this is the way you want your like to play out in the future?
If it were me, i would have a serious chat with him and outline what he needs to do (e.g.. keep a job, help out around the garden and house, etc) and set a deadline so that you aren't wasting your life hoping that he will become the partner that you deserve to have.
Lovely he needs to step the f**k up. he is the "homebody" the one who should do most home tasks, you are the breadwinner he needs to pick up the slack
Sorry but he should step up and be the man you need or step down so u can find the man who is willing to be a partner... Honestly he sounds very immature you may as well have a sooky teen... The problem won't solve itself... And unfortunately you probably have been enabling him.... You need to set the standards you expect... Either he man's up or leaves... He may suffer depression,anxiety and have allergies but honestly it sounds like he's using excuses to be a lazy shit. Depression, anxiety and allergies can all be controlled to a degree that would make every day living easier... I say if he's going to act like a child treat him that way, do a chore list and that is to be done before he gets anything he enjoys eg drumming, movies fishing what ever it is he does... And stop doing things for him, treat him how he treats you... He will either wake up or things will be the same, then you need to decide weather it's worth continuing with this relationship...
What a lazy f*ck. Get rid of him. People like that never change.