Hi, Iam a mum of a 2 year old girl and a 5 year old boy, we live in a tiny little unit. Iam wanting to put them in the same room and convert one bedroom to a a play room as at the moment they play in my living room and it's constantly messy! Anyway, Iam wondering if anyone has had young children of different gender share a room? How did it go? Thanks!
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I wouldn't do it. They deserve their own space.
In a couple of years, you'll have to separate them anyway. (The eldest will be in school and want his own space. ).
As someone who shared their bedroom their whole life, don't do it if you don't have to!
I HATED sharing.
Have a "toys in bedroom" rule.
Or a "pack up toys before bed otherwise they're in the bin" rule.
I loved sharing a room at this age! It wasn't until I was about 9 plus that having my own room seemed important and by then we took up less room when playing.
My little girl shared a room with her brothers for the first three months of this year and then I moved her back into her own room. Her brothers are 9 and 7. They loved it and the room is huge. I shared a room with my siblings when we were younger, wasn't a big deal I just hated that I still had to go to bed at the same time as my younger brother.
I'm always surprised when people say they hated sharing a room. I loved it. I shared with my sister until she was in grade 8 (me grade 7). And we still had "sleep overs" all the time until she moved out of home then i would go stay with her every time we went on the piss haha Obviously if it's a boy and girl you might need to separate them a bit earlier. But why not ask them? Ask your son if he wants her in his room and to have a play room or to have his own room. I don't see a problem if they like each other
We have a 5yr old son & 18mth old daughter and they share a room. They love it, my son was (& still is) excited to share a room with her.
We have a 3 bedroom house and the 3rd is now a study & play room. Our house is too small to have the computer or toys out in the living room.
We do know that in a couple of years our son will need his own room so we are currently organising plans to renovate and add on an extra room and rumpus area but that won't be finished for another 12-18mths.
I shared a room at some point with each of my siblings (1 sister, 2 brothers and the age gap ranged from 7yrs to 1 year), yeah we fought sometimes but what siblings don't? I cherish the memories of night time giggles & mischief we got up to!
I had to share a room with my brother who is 18 months older than me after my mum passed away when I was 9. We shared a room up until I was 15 as my grandparents took us in and only had a small house. We were both fine with it. There were bookcases separating us. I don't see a problem with small children sharing a room as it would be fun for them and make so many memories.
I used to sleep with both my brothers when I was a child. We all slept in the same room by choice. I would t hesitate to put rhem together. They will tell you if they don't want to anymore.
I shared a room with my brother until I was about 12- and that was by choice! It started when we moved out initial rental didn't have enough rooms for one each so we shared. Then, Mum and dad always bought houses with enough bedrooms for everyone but we just loved sharing so we did! I honestly don't think it's that bad at all. I have a sister that I could have shared with but my brother and I just got along better so we shared instead and she got her own space :)
We have a 4 kids living with us. It was easy with just my three, then my step-son asked to live with us. We began with the boys sharing and the girls having their own rooms then monthly the two eldest would change out so the girls were then sharing and the boys had their own space for a month. It worked ok for a few months, then the youngest was getting bullied by his step-brother. We stuck with it for a bit longer until my eldest took her brother into her room to share. It's been 4months and so far it's been the best solution. Yes, they all deserve their own space but we can't give it to them at the moment. If we'd know earlier we would have an extra child living with us we would have found a larger house, now we're stuck in company housing so we all have to make sacrifices. When my three were young they all shared a room for 3 1/2 years as we lived in a 2 bedroom unit.