Hey IMs, I agreed that my kids could go on a holiday to bali with their dad and grandparents,(we've been separated 5 years) and i was reassured by their grandparents that they would also be there to care for them. Last night my daughter Skyped me petrified because their dad had gone out at 7.45pm and hadn't returned (this was an hour later). My 8 year old told me that he had locked the door (i know all the possibilities ran through my head) and they couldn't get out to perhaps go and tell their nan and pop who were next door or in case of an emergergy ect. No one had any means of contacting the dad other than the Skype that the kids were left with. Apparently the grandparents were intoxicated earlier that day and went to bed early. My kids were petrified, I stayed on the Skype with them as there was nothing else i could do. Its not safe to call the corrupt police and let them near the kids, there is no reception as such at the hotel. It was 4.5 hours later he returned with drunk with a new tattoo!!! I was beside myself, i managed to calm the kids and myself it was after midnight that he had returned, they couldn't sleep until he was home. I understand completely the severity and danger of this issue. My question is how would you deal with this or him when he gets home? Would you cut his contact completely or ??? I won't do anything whilst he is there, as I don't want him taking it out on the kids. They are due to return tomorrow.
Kids 8,9 locked in a bali apartment room whilst on holidays with their dad.
Kids 8,9 locked in a bali apartment room whilst on holidays with their dad.
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I would get on a plane and go and take them. That is completely unacceptable and the fear of this type of rubbish is the reason my ex cant take our kids.
Once he did go out in bali and leave me locked inside the room without the key and a newbaby and it was a terrifying feeling. For me. As a grown women who travels a lot.
And to answer your question i would go to supervised visits he clearly lacks the ability to make safe decisions for the kids they should have been in the room with the grandparents if he wanted free time. Or with a babysitter. Or hey, sucked it up and put them first, you dont get free time when you take your kids overseas.
Note, dates, times details, screen shot the call details from your phone.
Get legal advice ASAP, getting things noted with a lawyers will be important if he fights it.
If he'd done that in this country it is considered child abandonment. Also speak to child protection in your state, to get a 'paper trail'.
I'd be only allowing supervised visits from now on.
Is there a way to report him to Australian police for something he did overseas? I don't know if that's a possibility but that's what I would be doing!! How irresponsible! This makes me so angry. Why even take the kids if that's the stuff he wanted to do?
Call the police! Your children were left alone in a forien country while the dad and grandparents got drunk!
Restrict visits, demand supervised visits. By any chance were you able to record the skype conversation? Seek legal advice!