I have a major dilemma. I have been invited to my brothers wedding next year and it's overseas.
Family is everything to me. But it will cost a rediculous amount in accommodation and airfares to go.
I could go by myself so I don't miss out or let him down. Or take the family and make it a bit of a holiday. I hate that I have to choose.
We're not holiday people usually and we really don't have a lot of money. We'd need a loan or something to be able to pay for it.
What should i do? Im so torn. But am also a practical person and I can't justify that amount of money on going. I'm considering not even going myself, as it would still be expensive for me to go.
So torn
So torn
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If you can't afford it you can't afford it and it is totally ok to be upfront about that. Im sure they would understand. I couldn't afford an overseas wedding, no matter who was getting married and if my family couldn't understand why I wasn't there then, my family probably needs serious reality check!
I wouldn't be going. I totally get the desire to be there to support him and to not miss out on seeng his special day, however, it is his choice to have it overseas and I would not be putting myself (and my family) into a financially stressful position just to attend a wedding. In all honesty, if i went, i probably wouldn't even be enjoying myself because i would be thinking the entire time about how much it cost to be there :/
My sil was in the same boat years ago. Her sister had her 2nd wedding overseas, she had no kids but my sil had 3. It was going to cost them a bomb to go as they had no passports, their oldest child was conisiderd an adult as she was 16 so they would have been paying for 3 adults and 2 kids, very pricey. They ended up not going. Only a handful of ppl ended up going.
I think it's a bit rude to expect ppl to fork out a tonne of money for your wedding.
My partner's brother got married overseas, we didn't go because of the cost.
When my brother was planning his wedding he mentioned that they were thinking interstate or overseas and again we said we wouldn't be going. Both times it was around times we were saving money for a wedding and house and weren't going to put off buying the house or getting married.
I never went to my sisters, mostly because of money. It is one of biggest life regrets. If I could I would do everything in my power to go, Bali is really not that expensive go speak to your travel agent see if you can pay it off. Otherwise I would def try go my self. If I had my time again I would of tried harder to make it work.