Update - I wrote in awhile ago about my daughter wanting to live with her dad. In June we all agree for her to go for a 6 months trial and all is going well , she likes her new school and new friends.. Have just been informed that her dad has a new job and will be working 2 weeks away 2 weeks home which means his gf will be looking after her when he's not there which I don't feel to comfortable about and the agreement for her to go was to spend more with him and build a better relationship..not sure what I'm asking but would any IM feel the same or am I just being silly and just wait and see what happens
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I would feel exactly the same! It's a dick move by Dad!
Hmm. I would feel the same. But in any family they may run it this way its not really bad. Imagine it reversed and you leaving child with your partner to work, its still being home and cared for.
I guess it depends on how their relationship is. if you want her to spend time with you if shes not with him I can understand that but how would you achieve that and is it worth the changes in her life? It might be, only you would know. For me she would be with me if not with him but also i dont remember how old your child is.
She is 11 almost 12
So old enough to tell you if living with the girlfriend is ok, and to have an say.
Good luck hard decision!
Have daughter come stay with you while dads away. No way would I be letting another woman raise my child. My job
Ask your daughter :) Ultimately it is her who has to live with the consequences of whatever you decide. I can definitely understand the reluctance however. You may find your daughter doesn't like the new arrangements and wants to go back with you. Wait it out and see what happens. Best of luck