I'll keep this short. So my daughter is 5, her father has been in n out of her life. Start of the year I cut contact with him on my end because I was sick of the way he spoke to me n blamed me for not having a relationship with our daughter. Well fast forward 6 months. He has just gotten out of jail for the 6-7 time (due to parole restrictions). Anyway he's now living back in the same town we are. And he wants to have Quailty time with our daughter, our daughter asks to see him also. However I have a bad gut feeling he will run off with her if I don't allow him why he wants. I don't know how to make the right decision about letting him see her & have time with her. do I say no n tell him to take me to court/mediation or what? I am so torn. Family n friends say he needs to prove he isn't going to up n leave like he always does plus to keep her safe.
Basically my guilt of keeping her from her dad is eating me up...
Please give me some advice.
Daughters father coming back into the picture
Daughters father coming back into the picture
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You tell him to take you to mediation absolutely no debate necessary. Yes he can have a relationship with his daughter but there is a right and wrong way to go about it and that can all be discussed in mediation.
Personally I'd be asking for supervised visits at least in the short term.yiu can put a long term plan in place in mediation that sets out supervised visitation with a neutral third party, then gradually moving to more 1:1 visits as he proves himself.
It's probably a good idea to book the mediation in yourself, tell him you've done it, so that it looks like you are trying to work things out, rather than with holding the child.
It's a good idea to seek legal advice on this issue too.