Are there any groups for support of step parents?
Im a step mum to 2 girls and have only found judgement and hate towards me and other step parents when i have an issue.
I love my step daughters as much as my own daughter and don't understand how or why people are so rude and judgemental.
Step parent support
Step parent support
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I'm a step parent too and to my knowledge there aren't any support groups.
I know what you mean.
Step parents are expected to stay in the shadows. They're not a 'real' family member. Whatever grief they get they should just put up with it because they put themselves in the situation. They knew what they were in for right?
They're unappreciated. Ignored. Judged. Hated. Blamed. The list goes on.
I don't understand it.
I hate it because when the children are with us i Cook for them, wash their clothes, do their hair, make sure the house is clean and tidy, bathe them etc (their father does heaps himself also)
but i get told I'm not ever allowed to complain, or ask for help, or respond to any rude and abusive messages i get from their mother.
Don't get me wrong i love these girls, i only want them to be happy and healthy.
Yup I know. It's very hurtful. What hurts most is their mother has bad mouthed me to them and so now they feel conflicted. Poor kids don't know what to do.
It not the most rewarding experience out there that's for sure.
Women are supposed to lift each other up not tear each other down.
I know exactly how you feel. I stuck up for my partner against his children's mother because he just can't express his feelings and emotions to her when she's overstepping the boundaries but I'm the overstepping and intervening one.
I get that some people could be going through the situation where their children have step parents, and they feel bitter about it, but not all families are there same.
Mine and my OH goal is to raise 3 happy healthy children, and my youngest step daughter (4) told me with absolutely no prompting etc, out of the blue that she very lucky because she has 2 Mummy's, her real one and me, she doesn't call me mum, i don't expect them to they have a mum. I'm just taking care of them like their mum would when they are worth her so how come any trouble or difficulty is my fault my problem and I'm not too expect any advice just judgement and ridicule.
SorRy just had to vent a little
I am a bio mum that went through an exceptionally bad, bitter divorce, I was very hurt. My son has a step mum now and I have never uttered a word to her in 5 years. She has never done anything to upset me, every now and then the ex and I have a blow up but her and I have never had any issues. I tell my son if he is upset or needs anything, to ask her, she is your step mum (not much confidence in dad lol). I always speak highly of her to my son, she treats him well and from what he tells me, they seem to have a special little friendship. I have to be honest, I feel sorry for her, being with him lol but maybe they bring out the best in each other and we brought out the worst. When my son tells me they had a fight, I literally pray they don't break up, because I don't think I would be that comfortable sending him without her there. Anyway what I am saying is, if I can get over it, anyone can, I feel sorry for all you guys that get a rough deal.
I'm a single mum. I'm very protective of my son. I hate how many step mums are saying it's the mums jealousy of step mum with ex that makes them mad. I can tell you it's probably mostly due to the fact another woman has entered a motherly role in their child's life. Without their concent this woman baths and kisses their child. Calls these children their own. Posts pictures of them. And the mother has no control. Try to step inside mums shoes for a day
I do. I think about it reguarly. But wouldn't you rather they were treated nice then horribly?
I've never said my SDs mum is jealous of me, and personally i don't care. She's the one who left she's the one who started a relationship else where first.
I take care of my SDs because i love them. I love all children and i take care of my niece's the same as my children.
I just do not like how magically it's always the step parents fault anytime there is a problem, yes sometimes it is their fault but not ALL the time. Sometimes it is the bio parents fault but no one will admit it.