How often do your kids stay at their grandparents? My partners parent like to be involved which is great, that's what I always wanted but I'm not sure if it's normal or a bit too much for them to ask for my daughter to stay over every Second weekend?
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My kids have regular sleep over s at Nannas. My youngest will sleep over once a week (she is home full time) so i can study. My school age children will have sleep overs usually during the school holidays, but sometimes in between. Nanna is much more fun then I am, she spoils them and gives them her undivided attention, something I can rarely do. I personally love them having sleep overs at nannas, means i get special alone time with hubby and kids think it's a massive treat. But you do what feels right for u. If you're not comfortable with every second weekend maybe suggest everyone 3rd weekend or once a month.
My son never stays with his grandparents as they live in another state, if we all lived closer I would love for them to have a sleepover with him once a fortnight I'd love for him to have that bond with them and it would be good for him to get some time away from us.
Every family is different though and what works for them I feel if they are happy to have your child every fortnight then brilliant.
I slept over at my nanny's place every second weekend from the age of 2.5. It was one night to start with but as I got older it was every Friday night until Sunday night. It was the only time I got to see her and my poppy and it was fantastic. If they are wanting to have her, let them. They are only young once and they won't be around forever. Kids won't always want to go to their grandparents as they get older. My nan passed away when I was 15 and my mum moved states when I was 8 (right decision for her but wrong one for me) I still miss my nan, still love her dearly and I wouldn't have changed the time I got with her for the world. Spoilt me rotten every time ? .
My son sleeps over once a week. But that is unusual in our family. My son has a rare sleep disorder so my parents give me a night of sleep.
My nieces and nephews would stay over at random intervals depending what's happening. Probably more like every 6 weeks.
Do what makes you comfortable, I would probably make it more random. Not a set in stone every fortnight thing.
For me its too much especially if theyre at school through the week but if it works for you and everyone's happy nothing wrong with it.
Hmm for me personally I think that would be too much. My kids stay over once every few months. If they asked for every second weekend I'd say no. But I wouldn't judge someone who said yes, it's just too much for me personally.
My 17 month old & 2 1/2 year old have a sleepover once a month, each get their own Saturday night/Sunday alone with nanny & pa. Sometimes may be an extra night if I've been unwell or we've had a long day at my parents & my son doesn't want too leave. We're very close with my mum & dad, I'm an only child so their my parents only grandchildren & everyone is happy with the arrangement ?
Never lol, we all live in the same town, but if they want to visit, they can, if they want them over for the day without me they can (usually once every 3/4 months).. But I'm very "they are my children, and I will look after them" type of person. My kids are 8/5/4. I should add though, we have a great relationship with the grandparents, and I have no concerns with them sleeping over, but they can sleep over their friends houses ect. But like I said, they are my kids, I had them. I'm not one to have 'breaks'.
I've heard of grandparents having their grandkids over for sleepovers, like once every two months. Every second weekend seems extreme to me.
I wouldnt have it set in stone... keep it flexible, but embrace it. My kids who are 17 and 15 have never even had an offer to stay at their grandparents house, and that makes me sad