My ex husbamd and i share 50/50 custody of our 3 boys. Our marriage ended three years ago, he had an affair and needed 'to find himself' he is currently in a relationship with the same wonan he had the affair with. He is planning on moving to another town with his partner and wants to continue the 50/50 parenting once he has moved. I have no problem with this or the move in itself. I am very concerned for my younger two as they start prep next year. They are high energy have a little trouble focusing at the best of times. I worry that the travel back and forth each day (which will be atound an hour) plus after school care, that the boys will be too exhausted to get the best out their first year of school. I have suggested that for the first year, they spend the week with me, and go with dad from Friday afternoon until Monday morning, with school holidays split between the two of us, or every alternate weekend and 50/50 split on holidays(traditional co parent). He didn't like either of these suggestions, and i explained to him, repeatedly, that it would be only for the first year of school, while they adjust to such big changes, being separated for the first time(theyre twins) dad moving in with his partner, to a new town and renovating her house. Sorry for the very long post. Any advice would be welcomed
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Personally i would say no right from the start and thrn you wont have any arguments when he wants them to go to school in his town or spend year on and off or anything. Keep your and their hometown as their base. He moves, he makes the sacrifices not them.
Absolutely agree with you, it is too much. Also agree with the above poster.
He's moving, he wants the kids for selfish reasons only. If hw really cared he wouldn't be moving towns! Your kids need stability!
He made his bed, now he can lie in it.
You have made no mention that if you got your way (don't mean to sound harsh) that will also be a big change to their routine by no longer seeing their dad as often. They will be fine. Kids are extremely resilient. It's us grown ups that struggle more with change.